Loud and Annoying Roommate?
I'm a freshman in college at the end of my second semester in school. I've had my roommate for 2 semesters now, but I think I'm officially about to go insane.
She has slowly worn on my nerves for the past year. Simple things like turning the lights off when I'm in the middle of studying. Sometimes she asks me to use my desk lamp, but most of the time they go off with no warning. Also, having the tv up too loud at all hours. OR changing the channel as soon as she enters the room, even though I was watching something. Oh! And she now has this new habit of suffocating me with air freshener and then leaving the room right after while I have to breath the toxic air.
I've dealt with this for the past year. I'm a really patient and passive person. Maybe a little too quiet about some of this stuff. But now, what I can't handle is her constant, never ending talking on the phone. She fights and breaks up with her boyfriend everyday! She yells on the phone at all hours. For example, tonight she talked past 1 in the morning. And usually I'm trying to study!
Now, I don't want to get in the middle of their fight, so I don't say anything, but as finals approach I really would like some peace and quite! On top of that, I feel like I CAN'T say anything, because usually she cries herself to sleep almost every night. I don't really have any sympathy for her anymore, because this is a cycle that happens every single day. But, still I don't feel comfortable making her feel worse than she already does if I bring up the issue.
Now, there's two more weeks left in the semester and as I said, I need to study for finals. Should I keep my mouth shut and suffer through these two last weeks? Or should I actually say something and risk a confrontation?
I'm a very passive person and really don't like to get into fights, but I'm just about ready to stand up for myself and stop being taken advantage of (Even if it is kind of late). I'm sure any other person would have opened their mouth and said something by now, before it got to this point. But of course I just sit back and let this boil up inside till it escalated to this point. Worse part is I don't think it's even phased my roommate that all of this is bothering me.
Now, I do want to mention that I'm a Computer Science major and almost everything I do is on my computer, so simply just leaving the room is not an option. Neither do I want to or think I should just because of her. I mean we're both paying for the room, I should have my rights to it too!
Still... this situation is going to far, and I don't think I can take it anymore. If I did confront her about this issue, what could I say?