Is this rape?.................?

so hypothetically if you meet up with this guy and you didn't really want to do anything with him, and you tell him that over and over but he keeps touching you and then he kinda corners you into a wall but not forcefully..and you keep saying no but he doesn't stop..then he makes you do stuff with him because he wont let you leave and he keeps holding onto you but not with force.

Then like if you keep saying no and that u don't want to do anything but then he starts taking your clothes off and you cant really do anything about it, is that bad?

like im asking because if he wasn't like super force full and if he doesn't like hold you down on the ground so its not rape right?

Idk if this makes a difference or not but Id never done anything like that before. And when I say do stuff I mean that he made me give him oral and have sex with him, sorry for the re-post but I just dont know what to do because it happened a while ago but I just cant forget about it and im really trying to, idk what to do.

Update:

To be clear, when I say he didnt use force I mean he didnt use excessive force as in hitting me and holding me down on the ground. He didnt let me leave after I tried to, I tried to push him away but he kept pushing himself onto me.

Update 2:

Im 16 and my family is very religious, I cant tell them im not a virgin anymore so anyone suggesting that I go to the police or family members...I just cant do that. And im confused cause idk what to do.

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  • 10 years ago
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    Yes its rape. You said no and no means no if he didnt listen to you even if he wasnt forceful you said no. Its rape you need to report him because he may be doing it to other girls to just remember its not your fault okay? hes the jerk who did it not you. Dont ever blame yourself or feel bad you did nothing wrong.

  • 10 years ago

    If you said "No" and he didn't listen, it's rape. And while he may not have used excessive force he still used force if you were unable to leave (like with the pushing).

    I know this must be really hard for you, but it's not your fault. Try talking to a counselor (by law they cannot repeat to anyone what you have said), they would be able to recommend actions for you to take. Also, try going to a religious leader within your church. They can help you with these feeling and may also be able to help with approaching your parents.

  • 10 years ago

    No means no! Anyone who does not listen to "no" in regards to sexual activity is a rapist.

    What you experienced was "date rape".

    Here are some facts for you:

    Most women are raped by “normal” acquaintances.

    No one, male or female, deserves to be raped. Being in a man’s house or car does not mean a woman has agreed to have sex with him.

    You have been raped when you are forced to have sex against your will, whether you fight back or not.

    Rape is rape, even if the woman isn’t a virgin, even if she is willingly had sex with the same man before.

    No one owes sex as a payment to anyone else, no matter how expensive the date.

    Everyone has the right to say “no” to sexual activity, regardless of what has proceeded it and to have the “no” respected.

    Men don’t physically need to have sex after becoming aroused anymore than women do. Men are still able to control themselves even after becoming sexually excited.

    Please, seek help & report the crime that was committed against you.

    Good health & happiness to you!

  • judy
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    I'm no lawyer, but you should definitely go to the police with this and see what they say. Yes, I think this is rape. Forget if there's a lack of evidence, pretty much all a girl has to do is point her finger at a guy and he gets locked up.

  • 10 years ago

    when you say certain things like 'you said no' 'tried to push away but he pushed onto you' 'he took your clothes of and you couldn't really do anything' then yeah that is classed as rape.

    Rape does not have to be forcefull with violence etc, if someone says no and you use any kind of force, harsh or not on them then it is not right and could go to jail.

    You really need to talk to someone about this, i don't know how old you are..? but a family member then they could help you out with support.

    or talk with samaritans, or even go to the police.

    I hope it works out for you.

  • cowrie
    Lv 5
    10 years ago

    This is rape.

    I'm sorry girl, but you NEED to go to your family. They love you very much and will be understanding and helpful. If you had vaginal sex you'll need to go see a doctor too.

    And you need to go to the police. This guy needs to be taken care of so he doesnt do this to other girls. If you are a minor, and this guy is older than you it's a serious felony offense.

    Be strong. You can trust your family, I'm sure they love you very much.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry! This is definately rape. You said no, and didn't agree to sex, so it is rape. You need to tell your family and the police. Your parents can't get mad at you because...well, it was rape. It wasn't your choice. And if you don't want to convict the boy who did this, if you don't want to cause a fuss for yourself, think of others. If this guy rapes once, he may rape again. Turn him in -- for yourself and others. I'm sorry :(

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    yes it is . and now you have to talk to yourself first. Am I willing to under go the rigors of police questioning. it is going to be difficult to PROVE for court that he did indeed CO-ERSE . you into Sexual intercourse, against your will [DATE RAPE] Your age against his is a primary factor. His position in the Community another. His Criminal Background. His testimony , your lack of evidence . Did you save the clothing, was it in public where others might have observed you telling him NO. were you Straight and sober. free of any drug induced confusions. are you pregnant. were You physically bruised or hurt in any other way, including defensive bruising and arm hold in bruises that were dated photo evidenced by others that are mature and respected by the court. If you wage a battle with Police to be Heard it will not go good for you, as they take it to the District Attorney . That is a political position and they ONLY take cases the Feel they can WIN for their records, they may take the case and plea it down to nothing but a misdemeanor and you still have to live there and put up with the BS of WRONG-FULL accusations .EVEN tho they were not wrong. it comes out of court looking like you were.

    IF he used the telephone in another state or computer or took you to another state to do this ,it can become another matter all together. and Be of FBI interest.

    Source(s): WE are not in a good position when we tell the truth. call a crisis hotline and find a group of Victims that can help you deal with the after effects of it. You ought to try a few weekends in TEXAS where the &%* think they are supposed to act like THAT to be one of the BOYS or Macho or Just like My DADDY taught me. 'Quote " You girls always gotta say NO just to make us Try harder, you all know you want in my jeans too" not the end of the quote it goes on for hours.
  • 10 years ago

    oh hun, thats awful.

    if you didn't want to, then yes it would be considered rape. he probably wasnt using force, because u werent entirely running away ffrom him and pushing off.

    you could press charges if you want. but that would mean telling other people. first tell your friens maybe depending on how old you are. think about your options. (:

    just stay strong, **** happens, and you learn form it. <3

    Source(s): personal experience
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