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Changing jobs question. More complicated than you think.?

I'm a computer worker for a popular brand name product. For the most part I love my job and the people I work with. The company has been good to me but is literally in the woods and I prefer the mid-sized city life so I commute an hr each way to work and car pool with 2 other guys.

A coworker from another location had a son who went to school for computers. I'll call him Steve. My boss referred Steve to his old employer in our area and he moved to where I live. I have met Steve before but have only hung out with this guy several times in the relatively short time he has lived here (9 months - 1.5 years).

He recently informed me of a job at that company that was a level above where I'm at now. I was offered the job and have negotiated terms that are similar to have I have now. This company knows I have a job and who my boss is, so I have always met them after hours and later at night. They have been really cool and I have had some good conversations with one of the owners. One of the reasons I accepted this job was because I would get to work with Steve.

Turns out now that I have verbally accepted the offer Steve wants to get in touch with my boss, swoop in on my old job, and move and hour in the other direction to be closer to his GF while shes in school. I haven't said a word to my current employer and haven't singed anything with the new company. I now have second thoughts on taking this job knowing what I know now.

Do I stay put? - Let the current employer know that I have applied before without a call back and this time I'm not comfortable now based on the Steve precedent and maybe in the future the third times the charm, in a respectful manner. I don't want to burn any bridges and this owner seems cool and understanding.

Do I still leave my old job, take my career to the next level, and save 2 hrs commute every business day for a job I could dred? - Even commuting I can stand to make more money with overtime being hourly compared to taking this salary job. I can depend on the car pool to last forever and gas is unpredictable.

Like I said my current company is in the woods, has a tough time keeping technical people, and is in the middle of implementing SAP. Do I take this offer and turn in a letter of resignation just to see if they will step up to the plate and pay me? Keep in mind that my current boss knows the owner of the company I may go to. Anyone can be replaced but I have been there 4 years, know some of the companies systems like the back of my hand, and I believe I'm a critical piece of our 4 person team.

If I do leave, whats the best way to handle the awkward couple of weeks between me turning in my resignation and me actually leaving.

Anyone have any thoughts for me?

2 Answers

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
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    Leave. Take the job with the better job title. If you hate it in six months leave again, with the better job title on your resume. IT people move around all the time, it isn't any big deal.

    You likely are a critical piece of the existing team, but you are and your team are the only ones that see that. If your company is like every other company, your bosses have no clue what goes on in your department. If you are that critical, you will receive a phone call from them in 6 months after everything starts going to hell. They will either want to hire you back for more money, or want to hire you as a contractor (meaning you can charge them at least twice per hour what you were making, come in at night, and keep your new job...).

    Regardless of how things work out, you win.

    Source(s): Me - Did it, similar scenario. Ended up running a very sucessful contracting/consulting software development company specializing in auto and health insurance. All of it started from making that one decision.
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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    why would Steve take your old job if it pays less than the one you are moving to?

    what exactly is HIS job at HIS current company?

    maybe ask your current company for a raise and/or increase in responsibility to STAY

    you are the only one that can adequately weigh all the options

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