Is sexual addiction just an excuse?

I've been hearing a lot about sexual addiction (i.e. Charlie Sheen). But isn't sexual addiction just an excuse to cheat? And not exercise self control?

Are guys like that really sex "addicts" with a disease like alcoholism, or do they want to sleep around and cheat constantly with different women and just use SA as an excuse to do so.

13 Answers

  • 9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    People use the term fashionably nowadays, but real sex addicts have profound problems. (Charlie may well be telling the truth.)

  • 9 years ago

    It can be used as an excuse to cheat. It can also be something serious that should be treated. If someone (anyone, male or female) claims sexual addiction because they're promiscuous but won't get help for it, then yes it probably is just an excuse -- and what's sad is that these are the people who make everyone else question whether or not this is a real and legitimate addiction.

  • 9 years ago

    Sexual addiction is as real as depression. Is that just an excuse to not have sex? Typical sex addicts have sex 7 to 15 times a day. My wife says 3 times a year is too much. Don't think that any wife could keep up.

  • Sex is not inherently bad. In-fact, many medical professions believe sex is actually quiet healthy. However, obsessive compulsive behavior is bad. Sex addiction is any form of behavioral dependency, that is of a sexual natural. So, compulsive sex or even masturbation, can be considered a form of sex addiction.

    Addiction takes many forms. Addicts either are maintenance users or they binge. There are addicts who work 60-hours a week, without using and then binge on the weekends.

    Addiction can either be a chemical dependency or a behavioral dependency. Sex, Masturbation while considered a behavioral dependency, are also a biochemical dependency. True, it is human nature to enjoy sex, however, not everyone can properly moderate the desire, or amount of sex they have. Addiction is a disease and it directly effects the moderation control, found in the frontal lobe, of the brain.

    The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV) is used by both psychologists and psychiatrists for diagnosing disorders, such as substance dependence, which is essentially what addiction is. The DSM-IV offers seven criteria for substance dependence.

    The seven criteria for substance dependence are:

    (1) Tolerance, as defined by either of the following:

    (a) A need for markedly increased amounts of the substance to achieve intoxication or desired effect.

    (b) Markedly diminished effect with continued use of the same amount of the substance.

    (2) Withdrawal, as manifested by either of the following: (a) The characteristic withdrawal syndrome for the substance (refer to Criteria A or B of the criteria sets for Withdrawal from specific substances). (b) The same (or a closely related) substance is taken to relieve or avoid withdrawal symptoms.

    (3) The substance is often taken in larger amounts or over a longer period than was intended.

    (4) There is a persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to cut down or control substance use. (Unmanageable)

    (5) A great deal of time is spent in activities necessary to obtain the substance (such as visiting multiple doctors or driving long distances), use the substance (such as chain smoking) or recover from its effects.

    (6) Important social, occupational, or recreational activities are given up or reduced because of substance use.

    (7) The substance use is continued despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent physical or psychological problem that is likely to have been caused or exacerbated by the substance.

    Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous has created a 40-Question Self-Diagnosis Questionnaire to help you determine if you have an addiction. You can find it here:

    If you would like to get more information, or begin sex addiction recovery, you can choose from many different sources. SLAA, is the oldest of the sex addiction recovery programs. It is both free and anonymous. Those who lead these programs, are also addicts and can provide you with first-hand relatable experience, strength and hope. The meetings are held on-line, on the phone, and face-to-face.

    SLAA - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

    SAA - Sex Addicts Anonymous

    SA - Sexaholics Anonymous

    SCA - Sexual Compulsives Anonymous

    Co-SLAA - Recovery for family of Sex and Love Addicts

    Best of luck in life and love. :-)

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  • Steve
    Lv 5
    9 years ago

    Yes, it's totally an excuse. Even if you were addicted to sex then couldn't your wife/gf take care of that addiction. If it's just sex you're looking for, then getting it everyday with the same woman should satisfy this addiction.

    I think it's an excuse like most things. Is alcoholism a disease? I think not, it just means you lack self control. I like drinking as much as the next guy but have control.

  • I dont know about the cheating aspect but being a sex addict it a real thing and generally goes along with being bi-polar. Being bi-polar causes one to do harmful things and not think of the consequences be it blind sex, lots of drugs, shoplifting etc...its the rush..part of the manic side of manic/dpression. Sex addiction is real and can be treated with bi-polar medications.

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  • 4 years ago

    Its not as effortless as that sounds so making it authentic or not will not be principal. What's principal is the fact that who it hurts and what number of get hurt. The betrayal of trust and love . Ones moves for even just a moment can be the tip of lifestyles as you understand it. That means how much one could lose while doing it. Then you definitely need to remember that the person who was cheating on additionally bares a scare of distrust of their existence now. Making it just about inconceivable for them to believe or love once more. It takes rough work to make this this take a again burner and make it work.

  • 9 years ago

    i think myself its an excuse of course, these guys just dont care about other people and are greedy and have big egos. I wouldnt be surprised if theyre often crap in bed and dont enjoy it that much. Its more about the feeling of getting the woman and playing her.

  • It's a real illness and it not only applies to men, alot of women have it too.

  • Nokia
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    It is a real problem, however it is not an acceptable answer since treatment is available.

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