LOL!!!! I read this and started involuntarily nodding my head :). I've been a stay at home mom for almost 4 years. We have three children ages 5, almost 3, and almost 1. My husband does maintenance for a living and makes $38,000 a year and that's what we live off of and we are not on any kind of assistance at all - we just make sacrafices. We don't have new cars - far from it. We have an older, 1999 cavalier that is paid for but runs well. We have a mini van that we bought used at a GOOD price which our payments are under $200 a month and it will be paid for next year! yay! :) We don't have cable, we don't go on vacations, we don't buy new clothes (hellooooo goodwill and garage sales, and yes - target and walmart clearance rack (;), and the most expensive purse I have I purchased 2 years ago and it cost me a whopping $7 on the Walmart clearance rack. We don't go out to eat or buy prepared food, I make it at home. We have a garden to save money too. We live in a small, 900 square foot house that's 100 years old that was a fixer upper and we purchased it for $57K , but it's in a great neighborhood. We don't charge up credit cards, we don't drive fancy cars, we don't live in a fancy house, we don't own any RV's, boats, 4 wheelers or anything like that, we don't go on vacations, we don't eat out, we don't buy new clothes (I bought a few pairs of jeans and a few new shirts this year, but they were from Walmart, on clearance - before that it had been like seriously 4 or 5 years since I purchased new clothes - it's pretty much on a need to (as in they are wearing out and getting holes in them) basis), we don't have cable, we have basic internet, we have basic cell phone plans (we pay $50 a month for our 2 phones, my husband has one and I have one, we don't have a land line), we don't have any new gadgets. Our tv (a 27 inch standard old school tv) was given to me as a highschool graduation gift 10 years ago, and I purchased the dvd player that we use when I was in highschool 10 years ago as well).
I love it though. It's just stuff and it just makes life more complicated. I don't really care that we give up having "things", we have our children and we raise them the way that we want them to be raised, not the way that a daycare prefers to raise them and 20 to 50 other children. I did the whole working mom thing for the first 18 months of my oldest daughter's life and I missed out on so much... I saw her for an hour when I got her up at 6 in the morning and rushed her to daycare and for 2 and a half hours in the evening when I picked her up at 5:30 pm and quickly fed her supper, hurridly had some family time and then rushed off to bed.
What people don't realize is that they CAN afford to stay home - heck we make it on $38,000 a year - my husbnad makes $16.70 an hour! It's just that many people (not all, I do realize that some families don't make what we do and they need two incomes to put food on the table), but many people don't want to give up the "things". That's my opinion. I don't mean to offend, I'm just giving my opinion as was asked in the question! God bless!
stay at home and homeschooling mommy to three girls, ages 5, almost 3 and 10 months! :) Lovin' every minute of it!!!!! :)