im sorry about that :( my boyfriend and i use to be bad with both of those also.. as soon as i found out i was pregnant around 5 weeks i stopped.. turns out he had his couple months of saying he wasnt doing it but really was..behind my back. try to tell him theres no way your going to be able to support your child if drugs are in the picture.. i would definately concentrate on the weed at first and tell him you dont want that stuff in your house or around your child. hes going to do what he wants in the long run.. but you tell him, its me and your baby.. or you can just take the weed and go! its so expensive its ridiculous and addicting. people say how its not addicting but it is!! if he doesnt want to quit.. i would seriously just leave! obviously he is not ready to be a father and isnt mature enough either. my boyfriend quit smoking and stuck with me, ditched his friends and now its just me and him drug free and as of last month, cigarette free! try to show him prices of baby things, diapers, formula, bottles, clothes, etc. maybe he will see its a bigger expense then he thinks! if my boyfriend didnt quit smoking weed.. i told him i would leave him and he knows i would. i want whats best for my child i dont want my little girl growing up with a father that does drugs, and smokes cigarettes. i grew up in an environment like that and i ended up smoking and doing drugs also, so there is no way im going to go back to that i want to be a good role model for my daughter! goodluck hun.. sometimes guys just cant grow up.. you cant change them. luckily i was fortunate to.. and i hope you are to for you and your babies sake.. tell him how you feel and keep up dont give up!! he has had 30 weeks to cut down and quit and he hasnt.. so tell him he has 10 weeks or thats it! stand up for yourself because you are completely right hun! i wish you the best of luck and i hope everything works out for you.
24 weeks with our first! its a girl!