does anyone know of a website where I can find help?

Hello, first I would like to say please don't judge. I feel being gay is a disease of the soul and mind that i must get rid of. I have been having sex with men for 3 years now and its been sick,gross, and depressing.Before I started I would constant catch guys how I found attractive staring at me after. I figure this was the devil way of tempting me. Now I am constantly turned down by guys who i find slightly attractive and force by my sins to be with older guys. Today I woke up feeling sick thinking my pains and struggles where a sign from God. He wants me to turn back towards him. I must get rid of this. I don't want to be gay anymore. I hate it with a passion i hate the community, i hate the porn, i hate the groups. I'm looking for a friend I can go through these changes with. I want to come out of this. I want to go back to God. Its really hard to do it alone. If anyone knows of a discrete website i can go to please help me. If your going through the same thing please let me know. when can exchange emails read from scripture.


please don't say church or my pastor. I dont want to do this publicly i want this to be discrete at least for awhile.

Update 2:

i have been tested. Im clean....I dont want to talk to my pastor yet im not that comfortable with him. DOES ANYONE KNOW OF A WEBSITE?

Update 3:

Being gay isnt me. Its a disease I'm always depressed always wanting always lonely. Please if you dont understand and have nothing positive to say please dont answer. Im looking for help not to be hurt

12 Answers

  • 9 years ago
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    I'm glad to hear you are trying to get out of the LBGT lifestyle. Though I have never been openly gay, I was sexually abused by a male when I was a child and for years I struggled with wondering about my sexual orientation. The fact that my mother is an open lesbian didn't help much either. I was a very shy person and never had a girlfriend. I constantly wondered about myself and was distressed in my spirit. But then I realized that God is bigger than my problems and could help me through it. I still struggle with it, but I know God is bigger than any temptations we have. The Bible says "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it." (1 Cor. 10:13). It also says that Jesus was temped as man is, yet He lived a perfect life without sin. The Bible also plainly says in Romans chapter 1, as well as in the O.T. book of Leviticus, that homosexuality is a sin. If Jesus is your Savior, then He is more than willing and able to help you out if you truly repent of your previous lifestyle and seek to live in a way that is pleasing to him.

    Don't forget to spend time every day reading your Bible and praying! And also, if you want out then you need to flee from those people that will tempt you to go back to that lifestyle. You will have to leave them and move on with your life. I know this may be difficult, but once you get out of it I know you won't regret it. You don't need those influences on your life if you're trying to live a good Christian life.

    Unfortunately, I don't know any websites on this topic. I spent several minutes trying to find websites about it, but it yielded no results. Feel free to contact me if you just need to talk or anything. I don't know much about it because I was never as involved in it as you were, but I would love to help you in anyway I can. And I will let you know once I come across a good website.

    I will be praying for you!


  • 9 years ago

    As people here have already said, even the people involved in these "ex-gay" therapies don't pretend it can actually change sexual orientation. You can't stop yourself being attracted to men. You could force yourself to play straight and date women, but it will probably only make you and the women you force yourself to be with more miserable. It sounds like you're feeling really awful and you think the only way to stop feeling like this is to "cure" yourself of being gay. I don't know if you're just a troll, but if this is real, I really hope you can get to a better place. I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear, because I actually want you to be a healthier, happier person. God made you and still loves you. He wouldn't have made you gay if that wasn't the way he wanted you to be. Find a church community that will accept you for who you are, the way God made you.

    There are some reasons you are feeling so badly right now and your homosexuality isn't one of them. From everything you've said it seems clear you've been treating yourself terribly. You've been hooking up with random men in bars for a few years- of course you feel sick and depressed. If you were a straight Christian engaging in that kind of activity you'd be feeling the same way. You don't have to abuse yourself to be gay. You can have a healthy Christian life and still be gay. Find yourself someone who cares about you, someone who loves you, and you won't feel disgusting when you wake up in the morning.

    God loves you. He hasn't turned his back on you. You don't have to turn your back on him. Start respecting you body. Stop sleeping around. Find a different church community. Find a man who loves you to share your body AND your faith with. You will feel so much better if you just start loving and respecting yourself. God made you this way. He wants you to be loved and happy.

    Source(s): This website will help you find an accepting church community. This website has various resources for gay Christians, including dating services (no hook-ups!)
  • 9 years ago

    There are various pseudo-Christian "ex-gay" groups, but they don't pretend to change orientation. You are likely stuck being attracted to men no matter what you do. Orientation tends not to change much, expecially if you are on the far ends of the gay-straight spectrum.

    Nobody is forcing you to have sex though. You could always be celibate, or even sleep with women against your nature (though, biblically, im not sure if that is sound ... Matthew 19:12)

    Best of luck finding happiness!

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Obviously you need to come to terms with yourself, one way or another. If you are unwilling to speak with your clergyman about this, then I recommend you see a psychologist. Perhaps a Christian psychologist would be best for you.

    I personally have no trouble reconciling my being gay and Christian, and I pray that you will be able to find what you are looking for.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Check out It is non-judgmental but has lots of articles that might be relevant.

  • 9 years ago

    its like aids once you get it it is always a part of you. (this applies only because it goes off what you belive not what i do)

  • 9 years ago

    well you said you felt sick. maybe youb should get a aids test done and then start attening chruch and talk to your pastor. you can confide in him/her

  • Isaac
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    maybe if you see other people problems and resolutions you'll feel better. and become straight

  • Dude, Seriously? You can not change who you are. Learn to love your self for who you are not for who you pretend to be....

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