For one, you're 14!!! And why the heck did you need to give him a bj to show you were serious? Sounds like he just wanted a bj or to get into your pants. And why does your friend care so much? It's not like it was her boyfriend. And how did the 3 girls find out? Did your friend tell them? Or your boyfriend? I they did, they aren't worth keeping. And when you're 14, you have no idea what a relationship is actually like. Kids in school always think they're with the right person and then it all goes awry. If I were you, keep you hands, mouth and anything else, to yourself until at least senior year. Don't give into peer pressure. All the kids who are ACTUALLY having sex now, are most likely slut and will be pregnant by next year. Look before you leap kid.