My pregnant ex wont talk to me?
My ex who is pregnant wont speak to me at all, she is pretty far along and she wants nothing to do with me.
I will admit that I did try to persuade her into having an abortion and I was very hostile with her and was verbally abusive.
It got to the point to where she even contacted a lawyer friend of mine via email to tell me to stop contacting her as I put her under so much stress that she went into labor and had to stay in the hospital for 2 days.
I was angry with her as our relationship ended VERY badly, I got so angry with her I pushed her into the wall and she sent a return slap and she attacked me and ripped my shirt clear off my back, she at the time had no idea she was pregnant. I of course called the cops on her. After the years of being together she had never attacked me like that before, but I guess I had it coming. When she told me she was pregnant I even went to her house and she filed a restraining order against me.
I have gone to anger management to control my temper and work on myself in the last three months
I have tried to contact her nonstop for the last three months through email, friends, my attorney etc.
I want to be there for her and my baby but she ignores me. She has only told me through email that I could go to the doctor appointments and the parenting classes with her, but she does not speak to me before or after the appointments or even during the appointments. I also want to be at the birth of our daughter too!
She doesn't even want child support from me.
I want us to be at least on speaking terms for the sake of our child, how do I get her to speak to me?
I know that I was really wrong for the way I acted in the beginning and I am working on changing and I feel like my child is my reason to change.
Anyone been in my situation!
- bcs_userLv 41 decade agoFavorite Answer
Maybe you should just cut your losses and move on. You obviously did not/do not want this baby, and as soon as she is old enough to talk, you can be very certain the ex will badmouth you to her. It is probably best for both you and the child if you simply disappear and not bother with this woman anymore.
- lorraine aLv 41 decade ago
Its good you are sorting out and admitting you have anger issues.. You still have rights to see your baby even if you are not together and a solicitor will advise you of your rights.. Even if its supervised first off.. You cannot make her want you, all you can do is stay calm, and show her you are changing and intime she may come round, but even if she dosent you have a right to access to your child..If she wont accept child support, then put money in a bank book for the child and tell your solicitor you are doing this..She is probably scared you will hit her again, and that you cannot blame her for.. Please seek a solicitors advise, as if you start going round and emailing her you will get yourself in more trouble..
- 1 decade ago
You might not get to see your daughter being born, but your ex probably cool off after the stress of the pregnancy is gone. You do have the right to see your child, but your ex has a right to keep her from you. Go to court for custody rights. You should at least be able to see your own daughter on the weekends.
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- Anonymous4 years ago
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- miss universeLv 51 decade ago
she attacked you because of raging hormones while being pregnant
You expect things to be normal again after all that drama?
What do you want from her? I believe you should just support the baby financially.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
im glad she wont talk to you, you deserve everyway that she is treating you..
you wanted her to get an abortion but now want to be part of the kids life, well guess what, too late, too bad... your loss...
- Anonymous1 decade ago
No Pal, that ship has sailed.
Too bad. So sad.
Do better from here on.Source(s): And what kind of chicken sh8t calls the police for hitting when it was OK for you to abuse her? Please go crawl back under the rock you came out from...thanks.