ex christian and dont see it as any way moral when you look at its history of witch burning, inquistions, pope supported cild abuse, gay bashing, repression, anti condom policy spreading aids etc etc
In general you hang out with friends who you are not attracted to and date those you are attracted and have sexaul thought and want to be close to so makes sense if working your way up to that only in teens this is best done slow and taking into account age as to how far you are going.
Whilst most wont stick to this Ive obseved that is best if by 14-15 people have started to date, get to second base ie kissing whilst but or light breast touching. so by 16 have some idea what you are doing kiss and date wise. 16-18 for loosing virginity having gone more steady got closer to a partner and dated a lot more. If starting to date age 16 then the loosing virginity would be pushed further on as developing slow.
Its important to develop whilst still in highschool/secondary/college (if uk this means high school age) whilst still at home as you will have parents and teachers to turn to , be living at home so have a safe supportive (hopefulling not relgion nut parents) help support from peers going theorugh the same thing so have people to chat to about the highs and lows of it all, lots of sinlge people your age and lots of inter dating and its accpeted to be publically affectionate with lots of opportunities to find partners at parties etc.
When an adult at work, many companies wont let you date and wouldfirse you. Many will be coupled up and people expect you to be beyond the virginal beginner stage just like they expect you to be able to tie your own shoelaces and it would make being a virgin beginner and first times a lot harder as people tend to reach that faster .
Anal is far more advanced then sex , its riskier and if not done right can hurt.
People often get to oral before they have sex along with other 3rd base help each other orgasim but not have full sex foreplay stuff which is healthy as you take things a bit at a time, you get confortable looking, getting looked at and touching and this relaxes you so neither is tense especaiily the girl so she can lubricate and loosen properly so not hurt.
Marriage i general is not worth waiting for it may not occur till 30s or 40s, or never happen. Aand when ti does often a big let down with affiars, divorse or finding the partner is unsuitable and not just persoally and living together (say even ms tidy and Mr messy. But like different thngs sexually.
In the end the only real benefitters from pushing marriage are the businesses involved say cake and dress makes and divorce lawyers.
Also you will find that societies and groups who try and push absteanance mostly fail and have the highest teen pregany rates and std rates as nature and hormones win onl these groups dont give proepr sex education as you can see on this site with all the questions whihc you would not get say in the Neitherlands where it all gets taught properly before teenage so they know it all and its accpeted for teengwrs to date then get sexaul when they feel ready whihc for most will be in mid to late teens.
Oh and if the guy wont give you oral in return then he dont get any... fiars fair and many guys would run from a strap on...
Anal is not in reality a common thing as often hurts