okay this is a serious question so yeah my boyfriends ex would give him oral sex i personally dont like to do it i find it gross and quit degrading but he loves it and keeps asking for it i have told him no in every possible way but he still asks do you think im being selfish because i dont wanna do it or is he because hes trying to force me to do it?


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theres been a bit of a misundersatnding when he was with his ex he would get oral sex from her he obviously doesnt now that we're together some people were confused and though he was still having oral sex with her


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  • Best Answer

    It's completely normal if you dont like it. this is all ..dirty porn business, which makes us believe that everybody likes this. if you are not comfortable, you shouldn't do it. :))

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    I think that being overly aggressive about asking for sex is a huge turnoff and makes me not want to do it. The fact that my boyfriend never asks for oral sex makes me want to give it to him more. If it's not your thing, it can't be forced, and if he absolutely has to have it, he'll get it with or without you. To me he sounds pretty selfish (especially if you've never done it before-- being pushy is so gross.) Stay the way you are, if you change your mind in the future, that's fine, but don't let him force you (or talk you into) doing something you find degrading, you'll end up regretting it (especially in the instance where you meet someone you do really love and want to be with and you decide you want to do that for him-- the learning experience that comes with being in love and wanting to do things in a consensual manner can be really exciting and passionate.... just giving a dude a BJ because HE LOVES THEM is so lame, I'm rolling my eyes as I talk about it.)

    Source(s): Personal experience.
  • 4 years ago

    I really think that some guys just have a problem with it because of the taste/look/smell no matter who the girl is. You could be the cleanest, most attractive girl the guy has ever been with but if the guy doesnt feel comfortable with it, more than likely he isnt gonna give in. That same logic applies to chicks who dont like giving oral sex to guys. To me it seems like this guy may have had a bad experience with it in the past and decided that he isnt doing it anymore from that point on. That sucks for the next chick he starts dating. But for your sake, id let it go and focus on finding a man that you know is comfortable doing things in the bedroom that you are comfortable with as well, that way at least there will be mutual passion :)

  • Ava
    Lv 5
    10 years ago

    Please do not do something you are uncomfortable with,some like giving oral sex,some don't..I never gave oral sex to a boyfriend as I thought it was gross and then I met my husband and I really wanted to do it and am so glad I did not do it with the others.If you really love someone it may come natural to want to do it.Your boyfriend sounds annoying and immature and I would tell him to get lost!

    His ex probably never gave it to him either or may have just done it to shut him up.Keep saying no,you will keep your respect and let him get it elsewhere if he wants it.And if he does,dump the loser!!!!!!

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    When you're in a relationship, you have to set boundaries. if you're partner isn't happy with what you've said and doesn't respect your decision, then he's not worth it. If he does respect your decision, but keeps asking anyway, you need to tell him that when you're ready you'll tell him, and it won't make you ready any faster by asking you thinks like that every 2 seconds.

    Hope that helped. - Rosaline

  • 10 years ago

    If you aren't comfortable and don't like it, tell him that it isn't happening and if he continues to ask you ought to think about ending the relationship.

    If this boyfriend is comparing you constantly to his ex to try and manipulate you to get what he wants this isn't a healthy relationship.

  • 10 years ago

    its up to you period....its pretty low for u to give head but then again i wouldnt mind if a girl gave me one

  • 10 years ago

    I would say dont do it if your not comfortable with it. He should understand

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    yep i am going to tell you what i told my man.......Hey i really dont like to do it because it taste weird and i dont like you bugging me about this may work for you... hey girl suck his Di*k one good time a month and tell him you will do it next month idk

  • 10 years ago

    i say leave him. no is no and he should respect you enough to understand that :( he seems like a jerk.

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