Where can i find information on TBI?

my husband has TBI and I am unsure as to how to deal with this. He seems normal to me but apparently he is not since he is in a mental health facility. I'm so confused since he states he wants a divorce and some tell me it might be due to his TBI. I feel horrible for wanting to just give up on him because he is causing me so much pain but i dont know what else to do when all i do is get rejected by him one day and he's a sweet heart the next.

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago
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    I may have sounded insensitive in my last answer. Dealing with a loved one having a TBI is EXTREMELY difficult, maybe more so for you than for your husband. It will be a major learning experience for you. A lot of it you will only understand with time by living with it. You DO need support with this. This could be a good place to start:

    http://www.biav.net/

    This is the website for the Brain Injury Association of Virginia. This is the organization that runs the camp that I worked at. This camp was SO amazing. It changed my life to work with people with TBI's and meet their families. If you want to stay with your husband this will be a LONG, excruciating journey for you. What state do you live in? People come to this camp from all over the country. Maybe within a few years your husband could come and you could come visit for a day to meet other people with TBI's. You would learn SO much. Start with that website though. I think it can connect you with some helpful resources. You can email me too if you'd like.

    Here's the Brain Injury Assoc. of America Website:

    http://www.biausa.org/

    Click on "About Brain Injury" on the upper lefthand side of the homepage.

    Here is info on TBI's and the military:

    http://www.biav.net/military.htm

    On this page you will find a "resource request" link:

    "BIAV has a variety of resources and educational materials regarding brain injury and the military. Please contact us for more information at 804-355-5748 or 1-800-444-6443 or complete our Resource Request Form."

    I think should fill it out.

  • 10 years ago

    I can tell when someone really just needs "that answer" girl.. being an military wife is hard.. I am one too. It seems as if your situation has worsened with your husbands "mental problem" & you being pregnant. & also having a toddler!! You are one of those women that I look up to! You are doing what most women can not. So my advice to you is, from the information that you have given me on your last few questions, is just to keep a smile on your face.. if you love him.. show him.. if you rreally DO love him.. dont give up. Its going to be hard but at the end of the day your a better wife, mother, and person. If your husband has TBI then he is in no shape to know if he wants a divorce or not.. google it. You'll find tons of answers. Best of luck.

  • 10 years ago

    Type "traumatic brain injury" in your search engine. There are a ton of websites that can really give you some good info and help! I had a tbi in 1999, so I know alot about it. Feel free to e~mail me, I'd be glad to answer any questions that you may have. I will tell you this, a tbi really effects moods, personality, memory, even anger control. In the beginning, it's very hard and confusing for a tbi patient. Please know that it will get better, it just takes time. Good luck to you and your husband.

  • El
    Lv 6
    10 years ago

    What is Traumatic Brain Injury?

    A traumatic brain injury (TBI) is caused by a blow or jolt to the head or a penetrating head injury that disrupts the normal function of the brain. Not all blows or jolts to the head result in a TBI. The severity of a TBI may range from �mild,� i.e., a brief change in mental status or consciousness to �severe,� i.e., an extended period of unconsciousness or amnesia after the injury.

    http://www.healthocrates.com/ask-question.php

    http://www.healthocrates.com/TBI

    You can ask all your questions in the sites i gave you. I know it is painful & devastating but if you've thought about it & decide that its time to move on then go for it girl. If your husband is in a facility & well taken care of then more reason for you to . Besides I think that in some moments of his lucidity your husband understands that himself & that's why he is asking for the divorce.

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  • Jerry
    Lv 5
    10 years ago

    The military should be offering you counseling, what's up with that?

    JJ

  • 10 years ago

    google would be a good start

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