My husband cheated on me. I'm not sure your husband cheated on you. You were separated at the time and this was even before you got married so technically he didn't cheat.
I was consumed with anger, grief and panic. I wanted to know what she had that I didn't.
But you know what, she had nothing. She had no morals (she new he was married), she was previously abused by her ex husband and saw my husband as a knight in shining armour. Because my husband and I had been having problems he got close to her, too close, but at the end of the day she could have been anybody so as far as I'm concerned she is nothing.
I know very little about her, and don't care to. I'm past all that. It was nearly two years ago and me and my ex are now friends (through therapy because we have kids). They are not together, and he knows the grass was not greener it just seemed that way for a while so now he is the loser.
Do not let the fact that your husband slept with someone while you were separated eat away at you. He chose to marry you, not her. It's really not worth bothering about. As long as you are both happy together that's all that matters. Finding out more about her is useless because if this is a trust thing then you won't get the answers you're looking for.
· 10 years ago