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Anonymous asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 1 decade ago

How should I address this invite?

I'm mailing a save the date to my wedding photographer, one because she's an old friend, and two because I want her to feel like she's really part of our special day, not just someone we're giving money to. However, since we aren't inviting her husband, how should I address the envelope?

Mrs. Jane Doe?

or should it be Mrs. John Doe?

or no Mrs. at all?

Thanks for your help!

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  • 1 decade ago
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    i would use Mrs. Jane doe

    because john doe is her husband's name

    not hers she took his last name when she married

    she was born with her own name

    you could use the title ms. if you like

    ms. is for a married or single person

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Rebecca Brightmoon is actualy incorrect. Etiquette dictates that when a woman marries, she assumes her husbands name in her marital status, so instead of being Mrs Jane Doe she i actually Mrs John Doe. This is the case in the most formal of situations. If you do wish to address her as Mrs Jane Doe then this is perfectly fine but just so long as you are aware that she is legally Mrs John Doe.

    NB: Mrs Jane Doe is the proper address for this woman in the event of a divorce.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If I were you, I would refer to her as Jane Doe. As for adding the "Mrs.", that's up to you depending on how formal you would like to be. I would definitely avoid referring to her as John Doe unless she specifically asks you to call her that, as many women nowadays prefer to retain their sense of identity by using their true first names.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    use mrs jane doe

    i'm not married but if i got an invite

    with my husbands name on it

    i would send the invite back telling them that i would go

    and i would put on the invite that my name is

    jane doe not john doe

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  • 1 decade ago

    i agree with rebecca brightmoon

    use jane doe that is her name

    some times it makes a women feel

    they have lost their Identity when you use their

    husbands name

    because they have their own name

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    How about, Old Lady Doe

    I have to say you win the my most pointless question I ever seen award, Well done

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