Apple asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

is my brother realy that bad?

my brother has been geting into trouble allot lately.. hes on this thing for teenagers that got in trouble with the law and he does community service now.. but recently he was accused of puting a lighter to sum1s face and burning them. my family beleived him wen he said it wasnt true but they got him on tape and aprently he was playing with the lighter and one of his friends said wouldnt it be funny if u burnet his face and he laughed and jokeingi=ly out the lighter to the kids face not noing that the lighter was extremely hot and now the kid has a burn mark on his face... my brother will be kicked off the program and posibly expelled form school and going to court.. the cops said this was one fo the worst things hes ever heard and that my brother was horrible... wut is ur opinion on this?? do you think my brother is horible?? p.s he has ADHD and the day this hapened he didnt take his medicine.. and he is in 10th grade and the other kid is in 8th and they hate each other because they call eachtoehr names and throw snowballs at each other and stuff.

Update:

i want u 2 no he is definatley geting other punishments at home.. my parents r dealing with it..

Update 2:

he hasnt done anything that bad to HURT any one befor.. the lighter wasnt lit but it was still hot... he broke the law befor by geting cought with a pot pipe in his pocket and i no the like 2 weeks ago he smoked marajuana again even tho hes on the program trying to prevent it.

Update 3:

my mom says he has no impulse controll

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  • tanner
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    1 decade ago
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    Having ADHD is no excuse for harming someone. I think you guys are being too easy on your brother. He did something wrong (you seen the proof on tape), he needs to be punished, not babied, or he will never learn a lesson. This doesn't mean he's a really horrible person, but he needs to work on common sense & right vs. wrong. A 10th grader has no business picking on an 8th grader, or anyone for that matter. Stop making excuses for him, your family needs to let him know that he's not off the hook, & he should be in trouble at home as well (not just with the law).

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  • 1 decade ago

    Of course he's that bad! Someone should be making sure that he's taking his medication daily in order to stop stuff like that happening to more people! If he's on some kind of programme for teenagers and has been in trouble with the law already then your parents should be keeping a closer eye on him...believing him when he claimed he hadn't committed the crime is just naive. Just because he has ADHD it doesn't give anyone an excuse to forgive him for harming others!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Your brother is a bully. He's picking on a kid 2 years younger than he is. People with ADHD are generally not bullies. Your brother is also on his way to being an adult criminal and going to prison. He needs punishment so that he learns that his actions have consequences.

    My sympathy goes out to the kid with the burn mark, not to your brother.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    well it sounds as if your brother is going through peer pressure. You really cant prevent peer pressure unless you stay away from those pressuring you. Honestly, your brother seems a bit bad, but i think that if this sort of thing hasn't really happened before then your fine, as is he. I have two cousins who are a lot worse, their mom is sending them of to boot camp to get better behavior!! I think my cousins are a lot worse than your brother.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    hes a bad seed for sure

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