What you have is a problem with your father and other male members of your family that are displaying an incredible lack of sensitivity and consideration towards your feelings. Their views towards members of the female gender are rooted in the archaic notion that women should be subservient towards men.
I hope that you eventually find fulfilment and happiness with someone who is kind, considerate, and is willing to treat you as an equal partner in any relationship you may make happen. Someone who is willing to let you be whom you want to be. That could be with a male, or it could be with a female. Respect for another person's feelings and emotional needs do not belong exclusively to any one particular gender.
Personally, I'd have more respect for a young woman who does not cave in to the expectations of her father and other adult male relations. The trouble is that they've been getting their own way far too long. You're 22 years old, no longer a child, but an adult woman. Tell your father and your male relatives (in a non-confrontational way and tone of voice) to look after themselves when it comes to getting things for themselves at family gatherings. You will tell them or show them where they can find the items they want, but otherwise they've on their own. Tell them that you are not a servant, or a waitress,. Servants and Waitresses get paid to provide service (plus tips). Maybe you'll get a little more respect for yourself if you put your foot down, and tell everyone that. Tell them you will not be treated like a doormat, and by the way, the doormat is near the door. If they don't like it, they can use the door and leave. I hope you will get a little more respect from them by saying that, and in that way reclaim a little independence, and begin to deveop more respect for yourself and your own feelings.