I agree with you, Ellen, Apple Head, i just can’t stop loving you mj, and Elegance. Some fans really can’t, or don’t, look at the situation through a completely unbias lens because if you do, it wouldn’t be hard to see that Michael did indeed have a role in the destruction of his marriage. Lisa Marie wasn’t the villain, and Michael wasn’t the victim. They both were responsible.
Of course Lisa Marie shouldn’t have promised him children. But here’s what I think happened – she had intended to give him children, but it was only when she was married to him that she began living with him (remember, up to this point, their relationship had been mostly on the phone) that she recognized how serious his addiction was, and she knew it wasn’t an appropriate *time* to have kids. Quite frankly, I don’t think it’s a great idea to have kids with an addict. But that’s just me. I love and adore Michael, but what you get is a situation similar to the one that happened on June 25th, 2009 where the father orphans his three children. That’s *exactly* the situation Lisa Marie was trying to avoid by being in his life back in the 90s and by postponing children with him. As she said, she ‘thought that she could save him’ from the very same demons that took her father. She made that clear with her statement after his death that she felt like a failure. She tried. Who do you think was there for him when all his Hollywood ‘friends’ abandoned him in 93? It was Lisa Marie Presley and Elizabeth Taylor. That tells me that, yes, Lisa Marie did care and did love him. She was there when no one else was, why do MJ fans tend to miss that cold, solid fact?
As I’ve said before, I believe Michael’s baggage just became too much for her to handle. Trust me, I’ve been there – it’s not easy to be with someone who is as emotionally scarred as Michael. It’s also not easy to be with the most famous musical icon in the world. I don’t think Michael would be a picnic to live with. He’s had everything he’s wanted from the moment he wanted it since he could remember. IMO, he really seems like a ‘my way or the highway’ kind of guy. I don’t believe he was used to compromising for another *in the manner that married couples do*. I mean, Michael wanted to have a couple kids come along for a vacation he was supposed to have with Lisa. If I put myself in her shoes, if I was vacationing with my husband – I wouldn’t want a couple of unrelated kids coming either. Not to mention, as Ellen said – Michael just kind of ‘took off’ for six months without a word to her and the first time she saw him again was at the MTV Music Awards where he points to her while singing YANA. I’m sorry, but you don’t leave your wife for six months, not tell her where you are going or if you’re okay, and then come back at an awards show of all places, sing to her that she’s ‘not alone’, and expect it all to be better. That’s not the way it works, I know I would have stormed off. Not to mention as Elegance said, Michael approached Lisa Marie with an ultimatum that Debbie Rowe would have his kids if she wouldn’t. Whether or not they were ‘officially’ separated, Michael got Debbie pregnant *while* he was still married to Lisa Marie. IMO, the status of their relationship is irrelevant. He got another woman pregnant while he was still a married man. End of story. If that were my husband, I'd tell him not to let the door hit him on the way out too. That's NOT something you say to your wife. I don't care how fans try to justify it, two wrongs simply do not make a right.
Anyway, I don’t believe Lisa Marie should have said those things in those interviews about Michael. I think it would have been classier to have just left well enough alone as Michael did. However, that said – judging by her reactions, I don’t think she hated him or wanted to ruin his image. It seemed like a classic case of ‘hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...’ IMO, her anger shows us that she loved him enough to let herself get hurt by him and now she’s just retaliating like any bitter divorcee does. I get Lisa Marie because she's so much easier to read than Michael. I can see actual pain there when it comes to her relationship with him. Michael, I just don't know. I of course could be wrong, but it certainly seems he was more interested in breeding babies than having a wife. He wouldn't have given her that ultimatum if he loved her as much as he wanted children.
Anyway, as everyone said, she wanted him back. There are photos of them kissing after the divorce – with *Michael* holding *her* face, so I don’t think Michael was completely against the idea either. Here’s the thing; I’m not pro-Lisa or pro-Michael in this situation. I just think it’s unfair to slander Lisa because she had a chance with Michael and we didn’t. Let’s face it – we don’t know what either Lisa or Michael are like behind closed doors. We don’t know what it’s like to live with Michael. I think MJ fans are doing the same thing to Lisa that the press did to Michael, and it’s really unfair.