She did this, and she does that, its all HER fault! her, Her, HER!
Listen to yourself man.... for a guy who "came from the US Navy" you sound pretty pathetic. And she "keeps talking when she's not supposed to"? J-Just what the hell? She's a woman. They ALL are pretty chatty. Have you ever thought about what kind of MAN you are? And how SHE must feel living with a drill sergeant for a husband?
I'm glad to hear you dont hit her---thats good, but still... before you get all upset at all of her "imperfections" think about how many of YOUR OWN that she has to deal with. The only one who may need to be "set straight" here is you. She may not be perfect, no, but she is TRYING to please you. Imagine if she stopped trying, or left you... then what would you do. You'd have to cook and clean all by yourself!
Remember - shes only a woman, your wife, not a fellow comrad from the Navy.