Family Troubles - Babies! Long, Sorry xxx?

My husbands cousin had a baby boy in January 2008, at that time I was also pregnant and had a boy in March 2008. We used to be really close friends, we both had PCOS and I was told that I had a slim chance of becoming pregnant, if I did then I had a 90% chance of miscarriage! My husband and I had stopped using... show more My husbands cousin had a baby boy in January 2008, at that time I was also pregnant and had a boy in March 2008. We used to be really close friends, we both had PCOS and I was told that I had a slim chance of becoming pregnant, if I did then I had a 90% chance of miscarriage!

My husband and I had stopped using protection about 3 years before I found out I was pregnant, his cousin had gone on medication and had got pregnant within a few months. I was so so chuffed for her, honestly I was. Yes there was some jealousy there but I knew what being a mummy meant to her.

I didnt know I was pregnant until I was 10 weeks gone, my periods had always been irregular and sometimes missed 1-2. We told the family at the 12 week stage and everyone was thrilled for us. Except for his cousin, she would phone me up saying I was a cow and that I got pregnant just to compete with her! I would just ignore her and put it down to hormones.

I sent her a gift and card when her son was born, I tried calling her but she would reject my calls. When our son was born it was the best feeling in the world. However my husbands grandmother would start calling his cousins baby by our sons name. I started getting calls again that I had taken all the limelight off her son etc. I would try to calm her down by saying that she should be proud she had the first grandchild and no one would take that from her. She knew my husband and I werent using protection, she had always joked that we should get pregnant together and compare bumps lol.

Anyway 4-5 months later she phones to say that she is pregnant again (12 weeks gone), again I congratulate her and secretly hope that she might be looking to start our friendship again. It was the only call I got from her. While visiting her grandmother, she happened to tell me that the cousin had to get pregnant within 1 year of having her baby or the doctor could do nothing to help her and she would have to pay for medical help.

Now that doesnt seem to ring true to me, I always thought it could take near a year for your body to recover fully from having a baby, so why would a doctor advise that?

Anyway she had another healthy baby boy (January this year), her sister had a girl in February (her first). I talk to her sister and apparently she has fallen out with her! She said to her that she has taken the limelight of her 2nd son!

She is pregnant again and due in April. My husband and I have been trying for another one for the last few months, I know if I get pregnant again that she is going to start going mad again. Ive changed my number but she knows where I live (last time she was round at all hours banging the door!).

Her sister called in with me recently, she is worried about her. She thinks the advise that she said the doctor told her is a lie, as does my husband. My husband and her dont get on now after all this. She says this baby is an accident, her sister thinks its because she wants a girl.

Please dont get me wrong, we are all so chuffed for her. However we think shes having children for the wrong reasons. Her husband has a girl with his previous partner and his cousin would get jealous when he would call her 'daddys little girl'.

Sorry its long xxx
Update: Her mum and her no longer speak, I dont know why and have never asked. I do know when her first was born that she contacted her mum to ask if she wanted to see her grandchild, however her mum said no. My husbands grandmother kept asking us to have all our children before she dies. Although I would like to make... show more Her mum and her no longer speak, I dont know why and have never asked. I do know when her first was born that she contacted her mum to ask if she wanted to see her grandchild, however her mum said no.

My husbands grandmother kept asking us to have all our children before she dies. Although I would like to make her happy, my husband and I will have children at our own pace. We started trying again as we feel the time is right.

My first pregnancy was not easy (health ways). I talked to my husband tonight about holding off in trying, he says I try to please people too much and that hes happy to keep trying if I am. Hes annoyed with it all, he said why should we hold off trying just to keep her happy!
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