Should I have my son circumsized?

My wife is taking our 1 week old son to be circumcised tomorrow. I'm circumcised, but I'm not sure if we should do it to him. We're not religious, I don't really get the point. What is the point of circumcision and should I have it done to my son, why or why not?

19 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
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    Yes and this is why:

    Here are some good sites I've found about circumcision:

    general health:

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    Benefits of circumcision

    Eliminates the risk of phimosis, which affects 1 in 10 older boys and men. This condition refers to a tight foreskin that cannot be pulled back fully, so making cleaning under it, and passing urine, difficult. Phimosis also greatly increases the risk of penile cancer, and is the cause of foreskin and catheter problems in nursing homes.

    Reduces by 3-fold the risk of inflammation and infection of the skin of the penis. One in 10 uncircumcised men get inflammation of the head of the penis, which is covered by the foreskin. This rises to 1 in 3 if the uncircumcised man is diabetic. (Diabetic men also have other severe problems.) In contrast only 2% of circumcised men get this condition.

    Over 10-fold decrease in risk of urinary tract infection. Whereas risk of this is only 1 in 500 for a circumcised boy; 1 in 50 uncircumcised male infants will get a urinary tract infection. This very painful condition is particularly dangerous in infancy, and in 40% of cases can lead to kidney inflammation and disease; sepsis and meningitis can also result.

    Over 20-fold decrease in risk of invasive penile cancer, which has a high fatality rate. One in 600 uncircumcised men get penile cancer, which often requires penile amputation.

    Uncircumcised men have 1.5 2 times the risk of prostate cancer, which affects 1 in 6 men.

    Reduces by approximately 3-fold the risk of getting HIV (AIDS), during sex with an infected woman. HIV enters via the vulnerable inner lining of the foreskin of a healthy penis, but can also infect via sores anywhere on the penis (caused for example by genital herpes). In countries such as Australia that have a low prevalence of HIV the risk of a heterosexual man being infected with HIV sexually is generally low. His risk, especially if uncircumcised, will be much greater if he engages in unsafe sex with people of countries in which HIV abounds.

    Circumcision also affords substantial protection against sexually transmitted infections such as papilloma (wart) virus, syphilis and chancroid.

    Circumcision reduces by up to 5 times the risk of the man's female partner being infected by chlamydia or getting cervical cancer (which is caused by human papilloma virus). The load of infectious bacteria and viruses that accumulate under the foreskin is delivered into the female genital tract during sex. Chlamydia has more than doubled over the past 5 years in Australia and can cause infertility (in both sexes), pelvic inflammatory disease, and ectopic pregnancy.

    If not circumcised soon after birth, up to 10% will later require one anyway for medical reasons.

    Credible research shows that most women prefer the appearance of the circumcised penis. They also prefer it for sexual activity. Hygiene is one reason.

    There is no significant difference in sensitivity of a circumcised and uncircumcised penis.

    In general, sexual function is the same or better.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    No, you shouldn't.

    A video produced by the nocirc organisation:

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    Care is a lot easier with intact, non-circumcised boys as there is nothing to do. The foreskin is unretractable in infancy so it should be left alone. No cleaning under it or pulling it back is required. Doctors who know about the foreskin advise to leave it alone:

    Circumcised boys require a lot more care.

    Circumcised boys are in discomfort because there is an open wound. This wound can easily become infected. It can also become irritated by ammonia in the urine.

    The remaining skin after the foreskin is severed can re-attach to form a skin bridge. Basically it is a whole lot of extra hassle (that usually nobody tells you about). This site shows in graphic detail the terrible consequences that can occur:

    There is also likely to be negative psychological effects to circumcision:

    Circumcision removes a functioning part of the penis. Many circumcised men do not know what they have lost:

    The foreskin contains many specialized nerves on it's underside. When the foreskin is moved up and down it is very pleasurable. Circumcised men have lost this ability to masturbate easily as there is no gliding effect. Circumcised men often have to resort to artificial lubrication in masturbation and sex. See here for the function of the foreskin:

    Without the foreskin protecting the glans, circumcised men lose further sensitivity. The glans (head of the penis) dries out. It also brushes on underwear causing the skin to toughen. See here for the full damage done:

    There are good reasons to believe that sex is better for the woman as well, if the man has his foreskin intact:

    Men in Britain, Ireland, France, Germany and Italy, along with the rest of Europe don't get circumcised and they all do as good if not better than countries where circumcision is more common. So all in all it is best to be as nature intended. No medical association actually recommends non-therapeutic infant circumcision:

    History: Non-religious circumcision only started in English-speaking countries in the late 1800's. The main reason was to prevent masturbation. More info can be found at this at this site:

    Rates of circumcision:

    Circumcision rates have dropped in the USA to 60%.

    In Canada and Australia the rate has dropped to less than 10%. In Britain the rate is less than 1%. Only 20-25% of the world are circumcised, 2/3 of these are Muslim.

    Once it is gone it is gone, so it is wrong to make that decision for someone without their consent.

  • Connor
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    This was an answer I gave to a woman asking the same question:

    The pros and cons are opinions only, not facts. They vary from person to person, your son will feel different from your husband, and your husband will feel different from me and I will feel different then some bum off the street. It's all opinions.

    But if you are asking my opinion I can't think of one good thing about being circumcised. But I can think of a list a mile long of why I absolutly can't stand being circumcised. Reduced sexual pleasure being at the top of that list.

    I would never circumcised my child. I couldn't do that to him. I would love him and respect him. His body does not belong to me like a peice of property so I can't make a cosmetic choice about his body. That needs to be his choice.

    If there is no severe medical need at the time that requires the procedure to be done and there is no other ways of treating the problem then I think parents should be able to make that choice because it's a medical one. However if the child is healthy and it's done that's a cosmetic procedure and no parent has the right to do that. My parents sure as hell didn't and It greatly efffected our relationship forever. I won'd ever be as close to them because of that.

    I know how betrayed and hurt I have felt from it over the years and I could never do that to my child. Once it's done you can never go back, and I'm not about to pin my child in a corner over a decision he should have been the one to make.

    Circumcision causes irriversable dammage. It takes away 2/3 of the penile nerve endings and the exsposed head loses half of it's sensitvity from being dried out and left to rub against clothing all day long. Not to mention studies have proven the vascular and nerve dammage from being cut greatly increases a mans risk of ever getting a sexual dysfunction.

    This information was available 10 years ago, but it is today. More men frm my generation and from the generation above me are finding this out and are outraged this procecdure was done to them without their informed consent. And I'm right along with them.

    We have running water and soap in this country, there is no need for the procedure.


  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Oh please! If you want to talk about later in life and sex, uncircumcised actually gives the guy more feeling/sensation down there and is actually more pleasurable. Think about it, you are chopping the tip off where the nerve endings are.

    There are no worries about keeping it clean either. Uncircumcised penises on babies need as much attention as his elbow - none! You don't have to pull it back to clean it (actually recommended that you DO NOT do this at all).

    And as for what the ladies will think, really if they don't want to be with him because a circumcised penis looks better, is that the kind of girl you want your son with?!

    I have been with both circumcised and uncircumcised men and it doesn't make one bit of difference.

    And whoever said being circumcised will make you *** faster, do you really think thats a positive?!

    Not to mention that it is painful for the baby (they cannot have anisthetic as they are too young) and there is a chance of the penis getting infected after circumsition (I have seen it and its NOT pretty).

    It's up to you in the end but remember it will affect him for the rest of his life.

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  • 1 decade ago

    First off, let me say ignore Collge Girl, all of that stuff she posted is Ameircan lies, wives tales and Pro-Circ Propaganda, its simply bullshit.

    My proof is look at 80% of the world that is uncircumcised, do you really think if there were any real benefits everyone would be getting it done, and also she doesn't want to explain, why the US has a much higher HIV rate than Europe.

    Now to answer your question, I am American, I was circumcised, I hate it and I resent my parents for it, they had no right.

    circumcision is NOT cleaner, this is medical proof of that

    Circumcision damages the penis and makes sex less pleasurable

    also, your son is NOT going to get laughed at, 80% of the world is not circumcised, and in the US rates are around 50/50, and dropping, so in a few years, most will be uncircumcised, like every other country in the world

    I urge you not to put your son through this unnecessary, painful, cosmetic surgery, and really, its his body, it should be his choice.

    Circumcision is not recommended by any medical authority in the world., look below this for proof.

    here are some sources for you

    Canadian Paediatric Society…

    "Recommendation: Circumcision of newborns should not be routinely performed."

    "Circumcision is a 'non-therapeutic' procedure, which means it is not medically necessary."

    "After reviewing the scientific evidence for and against circumcision, the CPS does not recommend routine circumcision for newborn boys. Many paediatricians no longer perform circumcisions."

    Royal Australasian College of Physicians

    "After extensive review of the literature the Royal Australasian College of Physicians reaffirms that there is no medical indication for routine neonatal circumcision."

    (those last nine words are in bold on their website, and almost all the men responsible for this statement will be circumcised themselves, as the male circumcision rate in Australia in 1950 was about 90%. "Routine" circumcision is now *banned* in public hospitals in Australia in all states except one.)

    British Medical Association

    "to circumcise for therapeutic reasons where medical research has shown other techniques to be at least as effective and less invasive would be unethical and inappropriate."

    drops in male circumcision:

    USA: from 90% to 57%

    Canada: from 47% to 9.2%

    UK: from 35% to about 5% (less than 1% among non-Muslims)

    Australia: 90% to 12.6% ("routine" circumcision has recently been *banned* in public hospitals in all states except one, so the rate will now be a lot lower)

    New Zealand: 95% to below 3% (mostly Samoans and Tongans)

    South America and Europe: never above 5%

    It's worth remembering that no-one except for Muslim and Jewish people would even be having this discussion if it weren't for the fact that 19th century doctors thought that :

    a) masturbation caused various physical and mental problems (including epilepsy, convulsions, paralysis, tuberculosis etc), and

    b) circumcision stopped masturbation.

    Both of those sound ridiculous today I know, but if you don't believe me, then check out this link:

    Over a hundred years later, circumcised men keep looking for new ways to defend the practice.

    Source(s): Here are 11 reasons not to do it. Here is a good site with a lot of info Also, here is a video of a circumcision, how could someone do this to an infant Pro-circmcision arguments boil down to nothing more than research done in Africa by Americans to look for ways to justify circumcision. 80% of the world is intact, there are no major problems, there are no benefits to circumcision. Now, do you believe all those medical organizations or that bullshit she posted. Please don't mutilate your sons penis ,its his body and should be his choice.
  • Meems
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    You should go with your wife and ask your doctor about the pros and cons of this procedure. The American Academy of Pediatrics neither encourages or discourages circumcision, it is purely a personal choice. Some of the benefits include a decreased risk of contracting an STD when he becomes sexually active and of spreading disease to a partner. It also decreases the risk of developing a regular infection in his foreskin. Some parents find it easier to care for but others argue it is no harder to care for an uncircumcised penis and that children can be taught proper care at a young age. The cons obviously include the fact it can be a painful procedure (ask the doctor if they will use pain medications) and as with any other procedure there is the risk of complications. It is really a personal decision and one that both you and your wife should weigh in on. The doctor generally has you watch a video about the procedure before going through with it so if you do not wish to go through with it after seeing that you will have a chance to speak up.

    My son was circumcised shortly after birth 2 years ago and he was fine- no crying (they numbed the skin) and no obvious trauma. The skin healed quickly and he never acted uncomfortable or in pain when he urinated during the healing process. After seeing the messes he made in his diaper and the general amount of dirt little boys accumulate I am happy that we had it done. We are having another boy in 9 weeks and plan to have it done again. That's just my experience, I have plenty of friends whose boys have not been circumsized and they have never had an issue. Honestly I let my husband make the final decision- he was circumsized so I figured he was in the best position to do this.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Do him the favor and have him circumcised. I was circumcised at 18 and can assure you it is cleaner, healthier, better looking and increases sexual function. There is no loss of sensitivity, thats all anti BS propaganda! It is not mutilation. When the time came for my sons (4,2 &7mo) I had no hesitation to have them circumcised, I know there is only an upside. Being uncut sucks and he will know when the first girl asks him what is wrong with his penis!

    Source(s): Life experience.....the anti guys answering are mostly homosexuals..........
  • MariVi
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    No, it is not medically necessary, and in many hospitals is not standard procedure anymore. Most insurance companies will not pay for it anymore either as it is considered a cosmetic surgery.

    As a mom, I couldn't bear to put my son through something like that. He was born perfect and healthy in every way, I wasn't about to mutilate him.

    Does your wife know that every time your baby pees he is going to scream in pain until the circumcision heals? I couldn't be responsible for doing that to my baby!

    Also, sex is more pleasurable for a circumcised male.

    The increased risk of STD's cited by some as the reason for circumcision is ridiculous... the risk is miniscule. Do you know what the dirtiest part of our body is? Our fingernails... why don't we just remove your son's fingernails to prevent infection?

    More and more parents in the U.S. are choosing not to circumcise their boys. Right now it's at about half and half, your son will not be the only one in his age group who's not circumcised.

    My sister's a nurse, and she has told me often times the doctors are in a hurry and don't do a good job... do you want your son to have a weird looking penis for the rest of his life?

    The open wound from the circumcision could get infected.

    Contrary to popular belief and what advocates of circumcision would have you believe, evidence shows that newborns do experience pain and stress during circumcision measured by changes in heart rate, blood pressure, and corisol levels.

    I don't think it's my place to decide for my son, what his penis should look like. Sex is much more enjoyable for a man who is uncircumcised. I think the decision to cut off that part of his anatomy should be a decision that my son makes on his own.

    Intact foreskin protects against diaper rash on the penis.

    I don't see the big deal in having to clean my son. Basic hygeine is my job until my son is old enough to learn how to do it himself. My husband has never had any infections or problems, and it doesn't require any more care than daily bathing.

    The American Academy og Pediatrics does not recommend circumcision as a routine procedure.

    **For centuries, the only reason for circumcision was a religious one. Non-faith based circumcision began with the Victorians during the mid-to-late 1800s. They believed that removing the foreskin would reduce the male’s urge to masturbate.

    You should have your wife go to this site and watch the video at the bottom of the webpage of a circumcision before she takes your son. If she can watch that and still take him to have it done, then I'd say she's pretty heartless.

  • Beery
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I wouldn't do that to my son. It means a crippled sex life for him - 50% to 75% reduction in sensitivity and a loss of function for sex forever afterwards. Once the foreskin's gone it's gone forever. Anyone who would do that, knowing what will be lost, would have to be crazy. Personally, I literally wouldn't do that to my worst enemy.

  • 1 decade ago

    Just one question: Would you get your daughter circumcised?

    If not then why would you do it to your son?

    It's not a genetic anomaly, it actually has a purpose, to protect the glans penis. My husband is but after consultation with our doctor we decided not to circumcise our sons.

  • 1 decade ago

    Girls do not find it unattractive, a penis is a penis circumcised or not. Beauty is a stupid reason to amputate a part of your body anyways. If you teach him to take care of himself then you don't have to worry about infections either. It's not a decision to be made lightly and if you're having doubts then you and your wife need to talk about it more. Do some research, if nothing else they can do a circumcision later.

    Good Luck!

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