Yes, it can. I suspected my husband was having a brief flirtation on line. He was getting pm's (private messages) and would suddenly minimize the screen when I came around. I got into his email and confirmed my suspicions. He wasn't going anywhere, it was a flirtation that went too far. I confronted him with it (controlled in a mildly hysterical kind of way) and asked him if he wanted to stay married; because if he did, this s*** was not part of the agreement. He came to his senses immediately because he thought he'd lose me. It sounds like your husband is carrying a lot of resentment and anger from the past. On top of that, he's blaming you for where he is in life. Why are you being patient? Are you hoping he'll snap out of it? He hasn't given any indication that he loves and respects you enough to bring this to an end. If anything, he's done just the opposite. Only you know what your tolerance level is. You have to ask yourself, honestly, if the marriage was good until this point or were there problems that you've both chosen to ignore. Ask yourself if you want to stay married to someone who has so little respect for you. Ask yourself if there's any way that you'll be able to recover from this hurt and love him more than ever. If I were you, I would go to an attorney and at the very least get information about a legal separation. Given his current frame of mind, what's to say that he wouldn't incur a lot of debt, max out credit cards or go through your savings to pursue his fantasy. If he's not willing to go to counseling with you, or shows no interest in healing your marriage, you must start thinking realistically about rebuilding your own life while you can.