So yesterday night, my son went off to sleep and my husband and I went to bed as well. I currently have my period and I do not have sex during this time, and my husband knows this. So last night as I'm finally drifting off to sleep, I feel my husbands' hand going up my leg to my butt. I freaked out because I didn't know what it was and I finally realized it was him initiating....."fooling around". I sharply said "no way"..... and he said "1fuck" and went to sleep.....SO the point to this story is that he wanted to "fool around" go get HIS rocks off, yet I'd be lying there turned on while he snores off to sleep.
You should expect foreplay every time you have sex with your husband. The foreplay is what establishes the connection between the two people before the big finale. My husband's idea of foreplay is grabbing either by butt or boobs while I'm washing the dishes. How can I resist that????
The "you're my wife" comment got me so mad. My husband refused "date nights" because we are not longer dating!!!! But he does like to take week-long vacations with his friends to Miami.
Your sex problem is due to laziness, not lack of chemistry. He needs to invest more time on your body, and yes, even though you're his wife, remind him that you're still a woman. I hate the "wife" label. It all of a sudden attributes all kinds of new rules and our identity no longer matters.
Tell him that he will have to treat you with passion otherwise you are not satisfied in the bedroom.
I told my husband that I cannot get any pleasure between the boob grabbing and sudden down there rubbing....ouch!!!
I straight out told him that if he isn't willing to put more time into our sex life, he shouldn't waste my time any other way because it is not acceptable that every sexual encounter turns into a quickie.
Tell him that he is boring in the bedroom and things need to change. If he isn't willing, refuse sex. Its not like you'll be missing out on anything, right?
Then ask him why not? The "you're my wife" comment isn't good enough, its BECAUSE you're his wife should he be trying to keep you coming back to the bed with him. His comment about "you're not some girl I picked up at a bar" tells me that single life sex more exciting than married sex. This is the problem with his mentality and its something he needs to work out on his own.