I don't hate nerds. I married one. =)
My husband did lose his virginity in his early 20s, but that was his choice. He was "straight edge" as a teenager, and didn't date because he hated watching his male classmates treating girls like cr*p. Sadly, most young women have self-esteem problems, so they're willing to put up with poor treatment.
Keep in mind that young women are pressured to get boyfriends, because boyfriends are considered status symbols and rights of passage. Pay attention to a family gathering of yours sometime... you might notice that you get asked, "So, how's school/work going?" while your young female relatives get asked, "So, are you dating anyone yet?"
Yes, there is hope for introverted, nerdy nice guys. The best husbands I know are self-described nerds... and while their wives are often cute (like me!), they're nerds, too! The primary thing is for a nice, nerdy guy to NOT get bitter, or believe the axiom that "nice guys finish last." Don't be a "nice guy." Be a *decent man,* and you'll be fine.
Idolizing Cho Seung Hui is PROOF that you are NOT a nice guy. He was mentally imbalanced. There is NEVER an excuse for misogyny or violence against women, no matter how often they reject you. (Note: women can sense deep-seated hatred... there's a reason guys like him get rejected.)
· 1 decade ago