? asked in Education & ReferenceHome Schooling · 1 decade ago

Homeschooling and autistic 4 yr old?

Hello, I live in Oklahoma and am the mother of a 4 yr old son who has been diagnosed with autism. He was diagnosed 2 yrs ago, and he is on the moderate/severe end of the spectrum. He says abt 8 words spontaneously, all the words things like drink, eat, sleep, etc . He is smart, like bordering on savant, save for his speech issues and his behavior is to where he is absolutely unable to function in a classroom setting and for this I am going to home school him at least for his first year. I have a good idea of what his need level is based on the information his therapist have given me abt his functioning level. If there are any other homeschooling parents, esp parents of children with disabilities, please respond with any advice, information on resources in Oklahoma, (Im abt 45 miles South of Tulsa), basically anything that can help me start out on the right foot, any help would be soo much appreciated! Thank you in advance!


Neither public not private school is an option. I do not have the time to wait for government funding (believe me, as easy as it seems or as easy as you or a friend or cousin or friend of a friend recieved their assistance, I have been in and out of the ringers of trying to get him any assistance for over 2 years and it just isnt happening. Public school is also ruled out, we tried last year and on a suprise visit, I caught his teacher backing him into a corner and yelling at him. When I reported this to the school board the next week I was told that because of his behavior he would not be welcome back (coincidence? I sooo think not..) I appreciate any answers but you must understand that homeschooling has basically become my only option due to the reasons I've listed above and the sad fact that the state I live in has no real help for autistic children, and no law that says they must be kept in school, he can be booted out for the SMALLEST thing.. thanks to our fabulous congressmen

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I hear you. It is appalling that with autism occurring at such a spectacularly high rate (1 child in 150: 1 in 95 for boys) our public schools continue to be abysmally ill-equipped to deal with it. Even school systems that *claim* to be so equipped rarely *are* in practice, as I’ve repeatedly seen with my own eyes. It hurts my heart that your child was backed into a corner and yelled at, although sadly, it does not surprise me. Although your son didn’t for an instant deserve to be treated that way, I’m sad to say I’ve seen even worse treatment of autistic children in a ("top-rated") public school.

    You are wise to consider homeschooling for your son at this time. I would like to direct you to a very helpful site for homeschooling parents, especially those who are new to homeschooling: http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/index.htm

    The above site also has a special section on homeschooling autistic children, found at http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/weblinks/autis... . Pay special attention to the articles below the video clip, and click on those. (The first article happens to begin, “A family who has an autistic child will realize quickly that the public school system rarely benefits the autistic child.” Truer words were never spoken, and you will definitely relate.) Keep scrolling down the page to click on each one of the articles. You should find them very helpful, as well as reassuring.

    Also at this site you will find information pertaining to Oklahoma homeschooling laws. For your convenience, here is the direct link to that section: http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/laws/blOK.htm . See also http://www.oklahomahomeschooling.org/oklahoma-home...

    Because your son is not yet five, you don’t need to to worry about filing anything just yet. (In fact, in Oklahoma, it looks like you don’t EVER have to file anything, if you continue to homeschool your son.) Yet, you may want to consider the resources available to you, including homeschooling groups in your area dedicated to autistic children. See http://homeschooling.gomilpitas.com/regional/Oklah... and especially http://oklahomahomeschooling.org/oklahoma-homescho...

    As for the latter link, it appears that most of the autistic homeschooling groups in your area are in Oklahoma City, which I realize is not immediately around the corner from you. Yet, do not hesitate to contact them for more information, as they may well be able to direct you to appropriate groups closer to you in proximity. If nothing else, they should be able to provide you with further guidance and reassurance.

    Joining an autism homeschooling website should also prove helpful to you. Check out http://homeschooling.about.com/od/family/qt/grandm... for starters.

    Wishing you and your son the very best.

    Source(s): See also http://www.autism-pdd.net/autism-resources.html http://www.autism-pdd.net/resources-by-state.html#... Oklahoma Autism Network http://www.okautism.org Autism Awakening http://www.autismawakening.com Autism Links World Wide http://www.autismuk.com/ Autism Society of America http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer Comparative leniency of Oklahoma in filing notification of intent to homeschool: http://www.hslda.org/laws/default.asp
  • 1 decade ago

    Charity Christian Academy is a homeschool academy that has helped a number of homeschool families with children who are on the autism spectrum.

    Another wonderful source is NATHHAN, National Challenged Homeschoolers Associated Network.

    I would also recommend Home School Legal Defense, they have a special section of their website devoted to homeschooling the struggling learner.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I was a personal tutor for a young boy and when he got overwhelmed I took him outside to play and take a break. The government paid for me to help him at his privet christian school, and he did really well for the whole year I was able to help him.

  • 1 decade ago

    i home schooled my son last year due to his autism he is older he is 10 but you have to realize that it will not be structured like it should but with autism you won't have the chils sitting still and wrighting well mine wouldn't but this year he is ready for school

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