There's an old quote I like to remember at times: "People are not against you, they are just more for themselves." That means people are more wrapped up in their own lives than to be too concerned about others. So don't take offence if you are ignored because there might be a hundred reasons for what people do which only concerns themselves. First of all, you need to build up your centre of strength within and you begin with self-reliance, honesty, sincerity, kindness, and compassion. Having any of these qualities will give you a lot of self-confidence and surety when you are with others. Change your inner person first and the rest will fall into place. There's no need to become tough, we have enough of that type in everyday life. A man's strength is measured in his forbearance and not in his display of might is right, so to speak. If you want more control then learn how to relax your mind and body, usually combined with quiet, deep breathing to remove all tensions. The more you can become relaxed, the less you'll be reacting to every little situation that crosses your path. Try to see yourself as outside of your body as if things are happening to a third person; by doing so you will lessen your instinct to respond so quickly. What might help a lot is to listen to relaxing music that puts you in another place, a peaceful place where you are happier and content. Also, avoid those who are a strain on your peace of mind, you can do nicely without them. Remember, you can't please all of the people all of the time, so do what is important to you and if others are interested they'll join you. If you are honest with yourself you will do your best and leave the rest to be fulfilled by the Universe. Good luck.