Becoming a better muslim (plz dont judge me)?

Ok, so i was born a muslim here in the UK and have lived here all my life. I grew up as a muslim (my dad is muslim, mum is a revert) because of this, i wasn't taught as much about islam as others in a fully muslim household. I went to sunday school in the mosque a few times but as a kid my dad couldn't always take us all...myself and my siblings strayed slightly from islam, we still did basic rules like no pork etc but i was never taught to pray, cant read the quran, I do know things about islam, i know lots or rules and stories and how to like to western to be called a good muslim, but to islamic to be a westerner lol.

When i go to mosque i don't really feel accepted. Im half black half white and when i went to a mainly asian mosque they stared and asked if i can speak english and stuff, they just acted like i was an alien. When i went to a mainly black mosque they called me white and laughed. People also laugh at me coz i don't know much about kinda put me off because of peoples reactions. I tried to go and learn but was laughed at and felt to ashamed to go back....what do you all suggest i do?? I got myself a quaran to read and a few islamic teaching books. I just so badly want to become a better muslim but don't know where to start.....don't judge me ok, just answer if you have something constructive to say.


Ps...thanks for ALL the answers so far, and thanks for not judging me on it all...i know it sounds weird, but that has never happened before lol.

Update 2:

Naazi...i know lots about all religions. My dad always taught us we must learn about all religions so we dont feel forced into islam and we can all make our own choice, and i thank allah that all my siblings and myself all saw ISLAM WAS THE RIGHT WAY FOR US!! Mohammed B...that would be great thanks so much!!

Update 3:

Mujahid. i said a MAINLY asian mosque and a MAINLY black mosque. If you have been to mosques in the UK you would have seen that majority of the mosques are all mainly people of 1 race attending. Obviously there is no such thing as an asian or a black mosque.

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  • ...
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
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    Salam Sis,

    I am happy to know that you are keen to learn more about Islam. I couldn't help but smile when I know that you are working hard to be a better Muslim.

    "For God loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean."

    (Quran 2:222)

    I am happy too when I hear that some Muslims alienated you in the mosques and gave you the uneasy feelings. Why? Because each time we want to turn our way of life to the better there will always be tests from Allah. It means it is just a test from Allah for you to prove yourself that you are entitled to enter the Garden. All who have faith will be tested by Allah, just be steadfast in your decision to be a better Muslim.

    "Or do ye think that ye shall enter the Garden (of bliss) without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? they encountered suffering and adversity, and were so shaken in spirit that even the Apostle and those of faith who were with him cried: "When (will come) the help of God?" Ah! Verily, the help of God is (always) near!"

    (Quran 2:214)

    Don't worry, you are in the right capability to pass this test:

    "On no soul doth God Place a burden greater than it can bear. It gets every good that it earns, and it suffers every ill that it earns..."

    (Quran 2:286)

    If you want to learn about Islam, I highly recommend you to enroll to be the student in Islamic studies. You can learn in the comfort of your own home through the Internet. The courses are free and you'll get a certificate each time you complete the course. And you may obtain your diploma for free too in one of this site (Islamic Online University) as soon as you complete all of the free certificates courses provided.

    If you are in need for anything, don't hesitate to contact me, your Brother in Islam. Insya Allah, I will try my best to help you.

    Source(s): Allah knows best, May Allah guide us all
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  • 4 years ago

    Salam :) I'm a Muslim teenager living in Canada. I wear hijab alhamdullilah and it's for the most part accepted here since i live in a big city with a sizeable Muslim population. I do get the few ignorant comments and idiots at school though who ask stuff like "yo got a bomb under there hahaha". But the hardest part is being different from your friends. Being a Muslim, parties, alcohol dating boys wearing revealing clothing etc is haram, and while I don't want to do that anyway, it can be a little awkward to have to explain why I don't do it to people who consider it just a part of being a teenager and its ordinary to them. Muslims living in Muslim countries definitely have it easier when it comes to fitting in. And with food it can be a little tricky but I always try to read the label if I'm not sure of the ingredients. But I wouldn't wanna be any other religion no matter how difficult it gets and how different I feel from everyone else, I'm glad to be Muslim :)

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  • 1 decade ago

    Peace be upon you sister,

    I have had the same experience because my father wasn't very religious and I was always working starting from age 13. I did know how to pray but I wasn't praying at all, just sometimes! But my mother was very religious but I was at work so I never learned Islam, I only followed it. But I was always sure that Islam is the truth just by looking at the peoples life around here. I know they have nothing like what you see in a muslim country. Forget about this because its only the Past and we have to do something to get us on track.

    I started by listening to Prophetic stories. Second I have started to pray at least 3-4 times out of the 5. Then I started watching a great website that helped me improve my deen and thoughts or doughts about Islam.

    Go under the View show, then Yasir Qadhi, I learned the differences in culture and Islam. So many muslims just follow their families blindly that they don't even read the Quran. So they mix culture with islam. Start praying more and make more dua's ( sublications ) Ex: "O Allah, I seek refuge in You from the heart that does not have the fear (of Allah), from the dua that is not responded, from the nafs (ego, inner-self) that is never satisfied, and from the knowledge that does not bring benefit."

    I will inshallah help you as much as i can, please don't feel alone sister. Post more questions or you can send me an e-mail and i will respond.

    wasalamu alikom (peace be upon you)

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  • MashaAllah sis. It's great that you are trying which is more than can be said for much of the Muslim youth of today. Please don't be put off by others. No one has the right to judge you.

    It is the duty of the parents to teach their children about Islam but sadly some parents neglect this, in which case we must try our best to learn things for ourselves.

    I learned to pray Salah by reading books, I looked it up on some websites and also observed others praying when I had the chance to. It took me some time but Alhumdulillah I got the hang of it in the end and now I can pray Salah without problem.

    Ignore those that laugh, they are fools. Go to the mosque, talk to the Imam or find a sister there that you may feel comfortable talking to and asking for help. You can get some very useful and interesting books on Islam, the pillars, the prophets, etc and there are some good websites too but please be careful as some of them are fake, set up by non-Muslims and contain false information.

    Take a look at these sites, InshaAllah they wil be useful to you:

    A brief illustrated guide to Islam:

    Beautiful Islam:

    Finally turn to Allah SWT and ask for guidance. Surely He will never let you go astray when you are trying to become closer to Him.

    May Allah SWT make this easy for you and guide you on The Straight Path. Ameen.

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  • MB
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    How can such people have no shame? Are you sure that was a mosque? Muslims, astafirullah. Sister the only difference between us is our Taqwa (piety) not our color.

    Learning about Islam is the first step into increasing Emaan, so learn about its history,sciences etc. You can get books or their are many sites I could email you if you want.

    As for the people in the mosque inform the Imam about it.

    What is knowledge when you do not act on it? astafirullah, this is just embarrassing.


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  • .
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    you got to ignore these laughs, because they are not good muslims. good muslims should know that this is wrong. that treating you bad is wrong.

    its wonderful that you are improving. get a Quran with english translations. And dont be afraid. there is no other way to learn. and even though you may be a biginner in readin the quran, everyone is . you shuold not be ashamed. there are Muslims that dont and you should be happy that you can learn. ignore the people bothering you. you are helping your self, and this is the only way.

    I pray to Allah that these people stop bothering you. I may just be 14, but when we are young, its the best time learn. Go ahead and do what is right!

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  • 1 decade ago


    It is unfortunate and disgusting how some Muslims have been so unwelcoming towards you but that should not stop you from having the belief in Allah and living your life righteously.

    It's unfortunate also that you weren't given an opportunity and the resources to learn more about Islam but it's not too late for you and with the Internet, you have an excellent medium in which to learn about Islam. Here are some really detailed and excellent websites (the best ones I've researched for you to learn about Islam)

    You will be able to become a better Muslim but this can only be achieved by a constant learning and seeking of Islamic knowledge. In many ways, your situation is no different from that of a revert Muslim who often struggles to adjust and settle into Islam. Here is another excellent site designed specifically it seems to help people settle into Islam with a good grounding of knowledge:

    May Allah help you and make things easier for you

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Those people aren't REAL Muslims. It's against Islam to be racist. Let them laugh at you; just forget them and be the best Muslim you can be. Those people aren't God. GOD is God so just try your hardest and you're not alone. I, too, just know the basics and I'm learning. I just started this year and my dad is Muslim.

    May Allah (swt) be pleased with you!

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  • 1 decade ago

    This just goes to show that there are judgemental, arrogant people in EVERY religion.

    Perhaps the Creator wants you to be more spiritual and less religious . . and yes, there is a difference - the latter being the easy way and the former being much more difficult.

    Every person must chart and follow his/her own path to the Creator.

    Good luck to you on your journey!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Hun I don't want to come off as judging you, but you really should look at all the research and data around every religion before choosing your path.

    The Quran is full of incosistencies and torture, and is truly a violent religion. I personally don't believe happiness can be attained from worshiping a religion that brings misery to a 3rd of the world.

    Allah supposedly put us on earth to test us, but Allah is supposedly Omniscient and would know the outcome beforehand, as he made Iblis to betray him and burden mankind with temptation, either God himself is corrupt, or the Quran is a false statement.

    Please read my sources and choose for yourself, they all cme straight from the Quran.

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