How to get over a break up when you did nothing wrong?
My ex girlfriend and I broke up a little over a month ago due to us fighting about dumb little things. We had been together for two years, both graduated college and began life in the "real world". For some reason the past couple of weeks she just seemed really stressed out. She has the pressure of finding a job, paying off $30,000 in loans, and to make it worse she had a low image of her body, which caused the physical aspect for the relationship to drop off.
I realized things weren't ideal but I was understanding to her situation and went out of my way to try and make it better. I would take her out and surprise her all the time, but her general attittude towards me was just "blah". Usually her bad mood led to us fighting over something dumb. However, one day she said the fighting proved to her that "it wasn't working" and she wanted to break up.
After the break up I was upset and had a hard time moving on. We got together about a month later and she said the break-up was mostly her fault, and that she let excuses get in the way of our relationship. This made me feel good knowing it wasn't just me.
However she's already in a new relationship with a new guy. She said hes just something totally different and fun. If you ask me its a rebound but oh well I've accepted the fact we are not together.
My question is this... if she let the stress and excuses get in the way of our serious two year relationship, how come those aren't getting in the way with her new guy so quickly after? Any females have a perspective on this?
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
An overall answer to your overal question is, you've got to see it as her loss. Because by the sounds of it, it is. You sound like a decent guy who just wants to make a girl happy but your not being appreciated. And trust me she probably will let all that get in the way. This new thing isnt as serious as she probably thinks 'fun' is probably all it is. I wont say oh she sounds like a total ***** etc because you obvioulsy new a great side to her when you were happy but you've made it clear she didnt deserve you, so beleive that x
- 1 decade ago
The way I see it she was just stressed a lot and somehow that got inked to you and just made everything sh*tty. I wouldn't take it as something you did wrong, she was just under a lot of stress and it ruined things between you. She probably needed change and since she got it that's why things seem better between her and her new boyfriend.
- High RollerLv 61 decade ago
The woman got tired of the relationship. You became so involved with her problems that you became a problem yourself. Now she's with a guy who takes her mind off of her problems--a guy who is fun to be with. An understanding man can be like an understanding woman--boring.
- ?Lv 44 years ago
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- 1 decade ago
maybe she just wanted something fresh and new. Doesn't mean you're a bad boyfriend at all, she just wanted to try something different.