I concur with our sister "Kerika26".
The Bible shows that BOTH marriage and singleness are a GIFT from God. However, I definitely don't have the gift of singleness... no ifs, ands or buts about it.
On the other hand, for those that DO have the gift of singleness, those who actually CHOOSE to be single, I absolutely ADMIRE them, for that is THEIR GIFT in operation and they are able to serve our Lord in capacities that are far greater than what we who are married are able...
Especially those of us who are married with children.
I absolutely adore my wife, I love her with more than words can say, she is my best friend on earth, we are both 36 years of age and have known one another and been friends since 10th grade in high school. No one knows my wife better than me EXCEPT Jehovah, Jesus and the angels and likewise, no one knows me better than she does except Jehovah, Jesus and the angels, my own mother doesn't know me better than my beloved wife.
I think of her as my friend first and my wife second. I am beyond blessed that she is my friend, my wife AND my spiritual sister.
I personally couldn't fathom telling someone single to wait until the New Earth (2 Peter 3:13) to get married, that's not for me to say nor is it my place.
We are all imperfect and many of our dear brothers and sisters who may say this, truly mean well.... but... well... you know (just keep Colossians 3:13 in close mind LOL).
"Maters Granny" gave some excellent comments in her answer. Marriage is NO JOKE, the world's definition and mindset toward marriage and how marriage TRUTHFULLY is according to the way of the true Almighty God Jehovah (the originator of marriage) are as far apart as the Grand Canyon.
Marriage is life long, until DEATH due you part and if you and your mate make it into God's New Earth by surving the coming battle of Armageddon and make it through the final test upon mankind at the end of the Judgement "Day" of our Master's Thousand year reign, well....
you are married FOREVER.
It therefore is DEFINITELY the wise course to be as sure as possible of who we are intending to marry.
Date... for a long time (personally speaking, wouldn't it be the course of wisdom to get to know as much about our future mate as possible before we commit to the ETERNAL decision of the bonds of marriage with them and them only?).
Get chaperoned, date in a group setting (this allows you to view your potential mate for who they are), get advise from the elders about your potential mate, view how they treat the elderly, their own parents and family members, find out what are their views about having a family, their views about sex, this is very important and many take this for granted.
Heck, Jehovah and His organization operate by A SCHEDULE and by gosh the "marriage due" time between my wife and I operates the same way (now I'm not going to go into the particulars of what particular days that is, but it has worked for us for YEARS now and there's no cause for "confusion" between either one of us, according to our specific schedule, two days a week when our "marriage due" date time comes up we both are fully aware of it as those two specific days were mutually agreed upon by us YEARS ago.... and we both keep to our schedule. If for whatever reason we can't, then 1 Corinthians 7:5 comes into play)... etc.. etc...
The point is, truly getting to know someone takes time and then when you married the person the two of you have to get to know one another in a MARRIED relationship... the single life... goes bye bye.
However, when it's time for the "I Do's" it would have all been well worth it.
Anyway, it is written:
" Now concerning the things about which YOU wrote, it is well for a man not to touch a woman; 2 yet, because of prevalence of fornication, let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to [his] wife her DUE [sexually]; but let the wife also do likewise to [her] husband [sexually]. 4 The wife DOES NOT exercise authority over her own body, BUT HER HUSBAND DOES; likewise, also, the husband DOES NOT exercise authority over his own body, BUT HIS WIFE DOES. 5 DO NOT BE DEPRIVING EACH OTHER [OF IT], except by mutual consent for an appointed time, that YOU may devote time to prayer and may come together again, that Satan may not keep tempting YOU for YOUR lack of self-regulation. 6 However, I say this by way of concession, not in the way of a command. 7 But I wish all men were as I myself am [single]. Nevertheless, each one HAS HIS OWN GIFT FROM GOD, one in this way, another in that way.
8 Now I say to the unmarried persons and the widows, it is well for them that they remain even as I am [single]. 9 But if they DO NOT HAVE SELF-CONTROL, let them marry, for it is better to marry than to be INFLAMED [WITH PASSION]............
Now concerning virgins I have no command from the Lord, but I give my opinion as one who had mercy shown him by the Lord to be faithful. 26 Therefore I think this to be well in view of the necessity here with us, that it is well for a man to continue as he is. 27 Are you bound to a wife? Stop seeking a release. Are you loosed from a wife? Stop seeking a wife. 28 But even if you did marry, you would commit no sin. And if a virgin [person] married, such one would commit no sin. However, those who do WILL HAVE TRIBULATION IN THEIR FLESH. But I am sparing YOU.
29 Moreover, this I say, brothers, THE TIME LEFT IS REDUCED. Henceforth let those who HAVE wives BE AS THOUGH THEY HAD NONE, 30 and also those who weep be as those who do not weep, and those who rejoice as those who do not rejoice, and those who buy as those not possessing, 31 and those making use of the world as those NOT USING IT TO THE FULL; FOR THE SCENE OF THIS WORLD IS CHANGING. 32 Indeed, I want YOU to be free from ANXIETY. The UNMARRIED MAN is anxious for THE THINGS OF THE LORD, how he may gain THE LORD'S APPROVAL.
33 But the MARRIED MAN is anxious for THE THINGS OF THE WORLD, how he may gain THE APPROVAL OF HIS WIFE, 34 and he is divided. Further, the UNMARRIED WOMAN, and the VIRGIN, is anxious for THE THINGS OF THE LORD, that she may be holy both in her body and in her spirit. However, the MARRIED WOMAN is anxious for THE THINGS OF THE WORLD, how she may gain THE APPROVAL OF HER HUSBAND. 35 But this I am saying for YOUR personal advantage, not that I may cast a noose upon YOU, but to move YOU to that which is becoming and that which means CONSTANT ATTENDANCE upon the Lord WITHOUT DISTRACTION.
36 But if anyone thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virginity, if that is past the bloom of youth, and this is the way it should take place, let him do what he wants; he does not sin. LET THEM MARRY. 37 But if anyone stands settled in his heart, having no necessity, but has authority over his own will and has made this decision in his own heart, TO KEEP HIS OWN VIRGINITY, HE WILL DO WELL. 38 Consequently he also that gives his virginity in marriage DOES WELL, but he that does not give it in marriage WILL DO BETTER.
39 A wife IS BOUND during all the time her husband is ALIVE. But if her husband should fall asleep [IN DEATH], she is free to be married to whom she wants, ONLY in [the] Lord. 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is [single], according to MY OPINION. I certainly think I also have GOD'S SPIRIT. "
- 1 Corinthians 7:1 - 9, 25 - 40
BTW, I am NOT saying that a married couple should abide by a marriage due schedule and neither does the Bible state this or the faithful and discreet slave... it is simply what has worked WONDERFULLY for my wife and I (if this helps other married couples, great, if not... great). However, it is written:
"But let ALL THINGS take place decently and by arrangement."
- 1 Corinthians 14:40
To Lone Dissenter: You CAN see your wife again, she is merely asleep in death.
"and I have hope toward God, which hope these [men] themselves also entertain, THAT THERE IS GOING TO BE a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous."
- Acts 24:15 (see also Luke 8:49 - 56)
Almighty Jehovah God through Jesus Christ His only begotten Son, His Word the Holy Bible, His spirit and His true worldwide earthly organization today comprised of the True Worshipers which our Lord Jesus made reference to at John 4:23, 24.
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