I got this from this article:
If you have been contemplating getting a sex toy for your lover, but you are hesitant that they will like it more than you... then you can rest assured that you are among many who worry about the same thing. While some sex toys allow someone to experience increased physical intensity, they are never able to replace the sheer excitement of having a lover be intimate with them!
Many couples admit when asked in private that the ultimate fear about this issue is that they will not be as "good" as the toy. After using them, most couples realize that not only are they a lot of fun, but that the sex toy could never compete with the real thing. Most couples feel that sex toys only enhance their sex lives rather than create distance. This fear is quite normal for men and women, especially because we all have tender egos that need to feel important to our lover, and we all want to feel that we provide them with the most sexual pleasure they have ever had.
A vibrator stimulates us sexually more efficiently than any human could only because of the speed of stimulation, but the feeling of of human contact can be far more exciting for a few reasons. Not only does skin to skin contact provide amazing stimulation in a way that no sex toy can, but the desire in the mind toward another person is far more powerful and exciting than any sexual gadget.
The bottom line is that toys only enhance variety and pleasure if you and your lover already have a good sexual connection. Even if you separate out physical sensation with emotional and mental sexual turn ons... the physical sensation of another person and you getting off with each other is hotter than anything else. Simply being a giving lover in bed with a willingness to be vulnerable, creative and caring is what truly makes a great lover and no sex toy can replace you because of that.
· 1 decade ago