Wow that's annoying. One upsmanship. Sounds like your friend is pretty insecure. It's not the most mature response, but I would be condescending back to nip that obnoxious behavior. I'd say of course I am not pottytraining, haven't you read your baby handbook from the father of American Pediatrics, Dr. Barry T. Brazelton who doesn't recommend beginning potty training until the end of the second year to avoid mental health issues later in life like anal retentiveness, anxiety disorders, and self image issues. What kind of mom are you, you mean you don't have a copy of Touchpoints? It is the handbook on childdevelopment, all the pediatricians have a copy of it in their offices. I read it before she was born!
There is no point with this friend to try to oneup her back, she will keep going. Don't believe me? Try it, come back with yeah my daughter knows 4 colors too bad your daughter only knows two, all the sudden she will say well my daughter knows 2 shapes.
I totally disagree with Skye, she sounds like a oneupper.
I agree with Supermum.
Anytime anybody were to say look what my kid can do, the appropriate response is to say that is great, wow that is wonderful even if your child is doing something earlier than that. And like another said, to play it down, yeah but we have that at home. Or something like development is so uneven, my 3 yr old does count to 20, but knows no colors.
I do have a friend that had a special needs son who potty trained at 7, after my 3 yr old. Anytime she would get down about how difficult it is to pottytrain him, I never would be obnoxious and rub it in her face that my special needs child pottytrained at 3. I would always say, he will get there, he has come such a long way, look how good he is talking now. And once he is trained think of all the gains in development he will make.
This reminds me of when I was in school. School came easily to me, but not to all my friends. If I knew one of my friends studied for hours and was so proud to get a B-, I would never be that person that is like well I got an A as usual and didn't study at all (which was the truth). If asked I'd say I got an A, but you know how I suck at...(insert any number of things). Please people, don't be a braggart, its so unattractive.
And sometimes, if its really beyond age appropriate, I will come back with sarcasm: Yeah my son pulled to stand at 6 months, walked by 9, pottytrained by 18 months, began reading at 2, and now at 3 he is looking at the New York Stock Exchange right now and he just finished reading the bible for an hour. And he is just about ready to lose the training wheels on his size 10" 2 wheeler bicycle. This afternoon he will probably tackle another 250 pc. puzzle.