You say pedophilia is the attraction to children. You also say very few engage in any sort of sexual act with children. I say, pedophiles are sneaky and manipulative and don't get caught. I say, pedophiles have the thoughts in their mind to touch children, and they do at every opportunity.. and if there is no opportunity, they create one. And in my opinion, yes, a pedophile is a child molester.
Lets look at this from a different angle. A bomb builder. They make bombs, have a lot of them in the garage. They have never used one to wreak havoc. Do you think they never will?
Words ( pedophile, bomb builder ) are not the most important thing here, the repercussions are.