Anonymous asked in Society & CultureHolidaysRamadan · 1 decade ago

Can a non muslim convert to Islam to marry a muslim woman?

i am pretty sure that he will be a muslim by heart when he lives with her

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  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
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    He wants to become Muslim in order to marry a Muslim woman

    I was told that if a person was to become a Muslim, to get married to a muslim girl for example, even if not truly out of faith, then it is still accepted by God. Since this way one more person is becoming a Muslim, and especially that his children would be Muslims instead of Christians for example. So what do u say about that?

    Praise be to Allaah.

    The basis of faith is in the hearts, and so the intention plays a major role in Islamic sharee’ah. This is indicated in the hadeeth which the scholars regard as half of the religion of Islam, and with which many scholars begin their books, such as al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) in his Saheeh. He narrated that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab said: “I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Actions are but by intention and each person will have but that which he intended. So whoever migrated for some worldly purpose or for the sake of a woman whom he could marry, his migration was for the purpose that he intended.” (al-Bukhaari, 1). According to the version narrated by Muslim, “So whoever migrated for the sake of Allaah and His Messenger, his migration was for the sake of Allaah and His Messenger, and whoever migrated for some worldly purpose or for the sake of a woman whom he could marry, his migration was for the purpose that he intended.” (Muslim, 2530). Based on the above, this matter may be examined from two angles:

    The first has to do with the acceptance of this person’s Islam by Allaah. The hadeeth indicates that it will not be accepted if this (marrying a woman) is the only intention that he has and faith has not entered his heart.

    The second has to do with applying the rulings of Islam to him. If this person utters the Shahaadatayn and follows the teachings of Islam, and does not do anything that would nullify his Islam, then he should be treated like any other Muslim, and his marriage to this Muslim woman may be accepted. That is because we are commanded by sharee’ah to deal with people according to how they appear to be; we are not commanded to enquire into what is in their hearts. It says in the hadeeth of Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: I was not commanded to enquire into what is in people’s hearts or to find out their secrets.” (al-Bukhaari, 4004; Muslim, 1763).

    Perhaps if this person enters Islam, even if it is with this intention, he will look at the perfection of Islam and be encouraged to form a sincere intention, so he will become sincere towards Allaah and become a good Muslim, and Allaah will accept his Islam. Those who are in touch with this person can advise him to make sure that his intention is primarily to seek the pleasure of Allaah and to enter into Islam truly, and his marriage will then be a consequence or a means of his entering into the blessing of Islam, and not an aim in and of itself. This girl could make marriage to her a means of encouraging him to become Muslim, as happened in the case of Umm Sulaym (may Allaah be pleased with her) and her marriage to Abu Talhah (may Allaah be pleased with him). It was narrated that Anas said: “Abu Talhah married Umm Sulaym, and the dowry between them was Islam. Umm Sulaym had become Muslim before Abu Talhah. He proposed marriage to her and she said, ‘I have become Muslim; if you become Muslim I will marry you.’ So he became Muslim and that was the dowry between them.” (al-Nasaa’i, 3288; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Nasaa’i, 3133).

    With regard to the reason for accepting him – as mentioned in the question – being to increase the number of Muslims, this is not correct, because increasing the number of Muslims, even though this is something good and desirable, is not a reason for accepting anyone who claims to be a Muslim but does not really believe in Islam, because Islam is concerned with quality as well as quantity, it is not concerned only with quantity. One person who sincerely believes in the religion is better than a thousand who are lying about it.

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    Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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  • 1 decade ago

    Salam.Converting to Islam should be based on his own awareness that Islam is better than his old religion.Coverting to Islam just only for marrying a muslim woman is not good because it means he makes joke of his religion.He does not make his decision of converting seriously.He should make a comparative study between Islam and his old religion.So he should obtain a through knowledge of Islam before converting.In line with the qur'an and hadith a muslim man should get married with muslim woman (muslimah) or oppositely.A muslimah could not get married with non muslim man..

    A muslim could not just on his heart but also in his behavoiur and acts

    in his daily life such as fasting,praying,paying zakat etc

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  • Carla
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    First, lets address the male marriage practices. A Muslim man may marry any woman who is of the judeo-christian religions including all sects of Judaism, Christianity and Islam. It is only when a woman of a non-judeo-christian religion, such as Hinduism or Buddhism is to marry a Muslim man that she must convert. This is because adherents of Judaism, Christianity and Islam all worship the same singular god. As for women, in a strict Koranic view of Muslim marriage, it would be prohibited for a woman to marry a non-Islamic man unless he converts. This is because the man is considered the leader of the family and the family's religious doings, and as such it would be possible for the female to be dissuaded from her Muslim heritage and belief structure. An exemption that has been touted over the century by various religious scholars is that if a man is upheld in the community to a high degree that his non-Muslim status has little bearing upon his "righteousness and ability to provide a Muslim upbringing for his wife and children" the father of the Muslim female has the discretion as to whether or not his daughter may marry the non-Muslim. This is however restricted to those of the judeo-christian religions with no exception for other religions with out conversion.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Islam is not a club that people join for individual non-spiritual benefits. If a person converts he should do it because he has a deep conviction to submit to Allah. Otherwise who is he fooling? A convert cannot be a real Muslim if he does not strive to have favor with God.

    If he thinks in these lines then he can of course convert otherwise he will just be a Muslim in name and maybe at the expense of a lot of marital problems later in the marriage.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Have you ever seen a Muslim man converting as

    Christian so he can marry a Christian woman if she insists him to convert?

    Rarely an idiot would do so because he is not a practicing Muslim and doesn't know about Islam. He is just born in Muslim country but never learned

    any thing about Islam.

    Whereas most Christians revert to Islam because they find lot many faults in Christian beliefs and see Islam a better religion which makes more sense to them.

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  • 6 years ago

    what is that guy doesn't have a religion?

    how can the women make him understand its the right choice?

    Is it right to keep talking to a non muslim with the intention to convert him as he is willing to convert because of the women, in the future?

    i understand that as he converts he might start understanding islam more and therefore become a proper muslim... but is it right to keep talking to him?

    i really need to know... thanks

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    Christians use their young women as bait to get converts to their religion but you are talking here about love breaking the barriers of faith.

    If the man can testify that there is no God but Allah and that Muhammad was the messenger of Allah and the Quran is the Power of Allah in the Words of Allah to marry a Muslim woman I believe it would be more than just love for the woman but a change of life for the man.

    Amen to Allahuakbarr!

    Source(s): Quran
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  • 1 decade ago

    When someone come to islam with a clean heart the word is not convert but he/she is reverted to islam.

    There is no problem as longs he/she recognizes allah and will be rewarded double and all his sin will be turned in to good deeds.

    Islam is not just about allah but its a way of life and shows you how to live a good life.

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  • 1 decade ago

    he can do whatever he wants, but he would not only be hurting himself but also the girl if he doesn't convert w/the truest intention of doing it for Allah(swt) and b/c he believes it is the truth

    if the girl doesn't make certain that he's converting truthfully and sincerely, then she'd be putting herself at a greater risk of sinning

    if a true belief in Islam is not the reason for conversion, then he'd be no different then any other "muslim by name"...the kind that take shahada and don't practice

    Allah knows what's in every being's heart and mind



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  • 1 decade ago

    Well, sure, he "can" do anything he wants.

    But Islam wants him to mean it. Every religion wants the person to mean it, but many times, as in a love relationship, they are doing it for the spouse, and nothing else.. this happens and no matter what we think of it, it does occur, and many times those marriages turn out very well.

    I would never judge this, cos I have see this,and everyone is happy.

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