First, you remember that you are not alone. You have those two beautiful babies.
Second, you take the reasoning behind the divorce and decide if it is a cause that can be fixed. Sometimes, people say this in the heat of a fight and they don't actually mean it. If your guy is a hot-head, this could be the case.
If he is sure of this, start to think logically about how life will change and how you can make it easier on yourself and your girls. Would it be beneficial for you to stay with your parents for a while? Will your routine be the same? Speak to your spouse in a civil, non threatening manner and come up with a child support arrangement.
Try to stay civil. No matter how upset this makes you. This will make staying together or spliting up so much easier for both you and your girls . . . and if you do end up divorcing, it will make it easier for you to ask for things that you need from him.
If it turns out that you will be parting ways, you look in the mirror and remember that you are a special someone. That God created you with unique qualities, a great purpose, attributes that make your life worth living - and that your life will continue to be worth living . . . with or without your spouse.
When things happen that is beyond our control, we ask why and don't always have an answer. And while that may be scary as scary can be, it's comforting to know that these instances just make us eligible to recieve double. The Bible says that God will "restore double the years the locuts have eaten." And He will!
Hang in there, gum drop! God's not finished with you yet!!
I'm a Christian author
· 1 decade ago