First advise was to have been on bc. You goofed.
What WERE you thinking to get preggo with a jerk who was already a cheater, and dumping you. Where WAS your mother??? and where WAS your radar.
And no, he doesn't want the baby, honey. He won't be there by the time the kid is 18 months old. And he won't be helping you support it either... that's $1000 per month after hospital, less in the beginning, more later.
Dead beat dad.....He'll be gone, and that is a promise, if either of you is under 20, and I'm guessing from this, you both are.
You are in the same place any woman is with an unwanted pregnancy--married or not----, and you as well have the same three choice, none any good, sorrrryyy.
1. You can keep the pregnancy and carry to term. Since you don't even have a hs diploma, about all you qualify for is a job at McD's. If you are 16, you are out from under in two decades... 34, pushing middle age with a short stick.
Few guys date teen moms, (any more than you likely would seriously date a guy who had sole custody of his child.
It's called baggage, and you can hardly blame them.)
As you get older, they still don't.
Those fancy guys with fancy salaries and fancy degrees don't have too much in common with a hs drop out.
In fact you will never likely even meet one.
2. You can keep the pregnancy and adopt out.
And there is no guarantee that the adoptive parents will allow you in its life, even if they agree.
They can move out of state, gone.
As well, they may lie to any attorney about their home situation.
3. Abort. The religious right will tell you this is murder, and we have all bought into it.
But a zygote has no nervous system, feels nothing, hears nothing, thinks nothing.
The propaganda tape Silent Scream is a yawn. All mammals yawn in utero. Still, we all have difficulty with this, and none take it lightly. Abortion is legal up to month 3 or so.
After month 3 or so, you are now reduced to the two choices mentioned.
None of these is an easy choice. Not one of them.
The dude is a jerk. It's up to you if you wish him to be the sire of your child(ren).
teacher/counselor 26 years.