In short, no, he's not. He'll let you know about the procedures that he knows, is qualified to do, feels confident in, and is able to do. He'll also let you know what procedures the clinic/hospital is capable of doing, with the equipment and supplies that they have available to them.
His responsibility is to make sure that you give informed consent to the procedure, which includes making sure you know the potential risks vs potential benefits of the procedure, and any potential side effects. I am sorry to hear that you have been left incontinent and impotent, but I bet your family's happy you had the surgery at all!