I feel that way-though I'm a girl.
I'm 18 years old and I'm going to be 19 in June. I've been shy most of my life so I know how it feels to not have someone or that you would feel that no one would be interested in you to be in a relationship with you.
Girls just like guys that have a personality and have a social life, truly.
Or that even if the guy may not have much of a social life at least they have a personality, being a person of their own that makes girls smile, laugh, and feel good about themselves, as well as the guy taking good care of himself (physically, emotionally, mentally, and psychologically).
Don't bother with the women at work because women like that at work are young and they don't care what it is that they are doing, as long as they have a good time such as drinking, having sex, going on cruise, clubbing. They experiment and they can try to fill parts in their lives by what they do, say, think, and feel.
I try to meet guys or new people through activities and hobbies that I like so we can share the same common interests and find a connection.
I'm not that outgoing either because of my confidence but I'm working on it and I'm hoping on going somewhere with those who I want in my life because I know that if I want someone in my life I have to be more out there and not in the back where no one sees me or knows that I even exist.
I say, try to be comfortable in yourself and try to be up to date with what's going on in the media, pop culture, the world, and what people are doing nowadays to be active to what is around you so you don't feel like an outsider even if you're shy and not outgoing. Shy people know alot of things people would say that we don't know because they don't know us to say that but when they talk with us they find out differently.
Also try church if you believe in God.
But places that I think that you shouldn't try to find a girl are:
-parties=the people are diverse and so could the difficulties that they can bring on you. Just like the world it's hard to find good people and the reasons why people act the way that they do and why they are at these places would surprise you for what they really want or feel that they need.
If I helped hit me up, because I don't mind the help.
To help yourself to be less shy:
-have more confidence and self-esteem with yourself
-clear and remove all the obstacles that stand in your way (acne, scars, blemishes, etc.-Bio oil works)
-maybe working out at a gym where you can build muscle and character
-make sure that your grooming and hygiene are well kept
-speak properly and practice and make sure that your speech is ok. For example, don't start a conversation that you don't know and you know that you'll be having a hard time continuing and finishing it.
HOPE THIS HELPS!!! : )