Questions for those who service lots of guys?
2. Also, when sharing oral with dozens of dudes, how do you avoid the odd chance of breaking the heart of a guy who thinks it is more than just a hookup? Or do you simply make it clear from the get-go that this is for fun?
3. At what age do you plan to make the transition to monogamy -- or do you think that is even necessary or desirable?
Thanks and hugs!
Personally I think it is good for most people to become monogamous at a certain time of life, but I'm still working out the ethics of that. I'm traditional in some ways, but willing to learn from the life experience of others, including guys younger than me.
Yes, I figured your population of high school students in a prep school might be less risky (though I can't vouch for that). How awesome that your brother is studying medicine!
Hahaha, I'm picturing you arguing a romantic guy out of having a bj from you and laughing at that scenario! I'm glad you steer such starry-eyed youths to other boys. Okay, you also value monogamy -- I could see you as a great dad, and your adopted children will be so incredibly fortunate!
I love you, young friend. Be safe! Hugs.
However, I'm realistic that most of us don't have the call or gift of celibacy.
Besides, unlike older generations, we are not married young, guys don't have "concubines", hahaha, and there are years of education and life experience before most people are ready and willing to enter a monogamous union.
So my question is practical -- how to maneuver that time when one is not yet monogamous, yet one has sexual needs and a drive for romance?
Your answers are proving enlightening to me, and I'm grateful for you all.
OMG, a 15-year-old who has read J.H. Newman, or perhaps Augustine?! You are a priceless jewel, young man.
I am a Lutheran.
I hear what you are saying, Enno. I'd respond by saying, you have the Light of wisdom, love and truth in you -- and I think all humans share in this Light. As a Christian, I also think this Light was uniquely embodied in Jesus of Nazareth. I'm by no means exclusive, however. Though I picture Christ presently pouring out His Spirit of Light and Love on all people, I also picture the Buddha seated by His side. I am an inclusive Christian. Therefore, I welcome and embrace you as a brother, even if you wear the label agnostic. For in you there burns a bright Light, and I honor that Light in you.
But believe me, I was asking this question with an open mind and heart, in order to learn and grow from the life experiences of others. It's true that, as a man in my 40s, I have some opinions. But I hope I never stop learning from others, even about things like bjs and the sexual life of 21st century gay folk. =P
Yes, the world will be a better place because of you. Thank you for being you, in every way.
Your responses are all so interesting! As the Victorian Era morality is heaving its last death-throes, are we seeing a new way unfold? I suspect so.
--Youthful hookups that are fun and honest, for the time of the teens and early 20s.
It's fascinating to me to read *both* a desire for youthful variety and fun, *and* a desire for eventual monogamy.