you should calmly, approach her. maybe when she gets home from school you should ask her how her day went then if she says the obvious answer like my day was fine, ask her did if she learned something new she'll most likely say no but if she is the talkative type she might be like me i say "my day was fine" then my mom asks what'd you learn and ill say "nothing but blah blah blah" then i go on and on about my day. if she just says nothing or no she didnt learn anything try asking her whats her favorite subject which she will find strange but just ask then if she says writing or reading ask her what types of stories does she like to read and write, she'll hopefully answer with something about people and their life or something in that category then pull out the paper she may blow her top and freak out but calm her down tell her its ok and if she runs to her room, dont let her escape follow her and tell her you just want to help her make her stories better she may find it interesting that you actually approve since she didnt want you reading it in the first place so from there read the story, if she lets you, ask her where she's trying to get with story, then once you guys have been talking about it for a good 10-15min ask her why she wrote it?, what makes her want to write what she does?
i hope everything works out, be sure to never lose your cool, and if she loses her cool, dont directly say i love you and ill always accept you but kind of beat around the bush about it and make her feel accepted. because she may not want you to read it because she might think you'll take it the wrong way or think less of her.
i love writing once i wrote a story about a girl who loses her mother, and lives with her father and older sister and everything in their lives is pretty great. once my mom read it and freaked she was like "are you trying to say this is how you want you life to be? am i not a good mother?" i lost my father when i was 2 so i dont know what its like to have a father and i just wanted to write about how i see life wouldve been without my mother which i love her very much but i just wanted to express a different view of life. but i never intended on her reading it because i knew she would feel hurt but she did read it and now im not afraid to let her read my other stuff sometime she even helps my fix things or write them. so this might make things between you and your daughter better!
=) good luck, if you use my method, would it be ok if you sent me a message telling me how everything went i just want to see how things went but i understand if you dont want to tell me, if you do send me the message to
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