Our Adopted Children live under the same rules and expectations as our older biological children.
The only difference with our adopted children is that they suffered emotional, physical and sexual abuse before being placed into foster care as well as permanent brain damage caused by prenatal alcohol and drug exposure. Which means that we have to Work with their special needs and be a lot more creative. I WISH that we could Spoil them as we did with the biological children HOWEVER for our little ones it's even MORE VITAL that we maintain clear and firm boundaries, and Always Follow through with consistent and dependable consequences...
I guess the Only Spoiling our little ones get over the adult bios would be a few more vacations and a Heck of a Lot more Time Investment as parents since they require far more attention to overcome their special needs. They have gone to Disneyland More then the older ones--but, that is because EVEN with our Vacations Repeated Experiences and Teaching the Same Things over and over again is one parenting skill we need to practice therefore it's even evident in our Vacations. The Big Kids are invited to come along--however, they are too busy going to college--which is something that Our little ones most likely won't be able to do...so it all evens out in the End!
Both of my sons will never let me forget that I didn't buy them a Power Wheel!
And I learned with the big kids that Nintendo's are evil things that Suck out the Brains of some children--so the Little Ones don't Have ONE and the big kids did...along with a few other liberties I gave the older ones and Learned was a Mistake!
***ETA--Oh, and Personal Blogs written by "someone" with an oppinion mean little to nothing to me.
I have however, read that BECAUSE parents who Adopt deliberatly CHOOSE to be parents they are typically more able to provide more, and more likely to Want to be Parents. Which means that in general they are Less Likely to be involved with CPS and more likely to be able to support their children then those parents who become parents the biological way. You need to consider the fact that Adoptive Parents go Out of their way to become parents and it takes a lot longer then the standard 2 1/2 minutes of passion...so, the Fact that Adoptive parents become parents with a lot of paperwork, back ground checks, finacial stability, references and hours of training naturally leads to the fact that They ***Might*** in many cases have the means as a Whole Population to Provide More and the education to Avoid many of the situations that cause so many children to be in Foster Care... How That would equal Spoiled Brat I don't know but...I guess someone who is Paid to Blog about their Own Personal feelings, expereince and oppinions is hardly a basis for such an over generlized perspective...
frankly, I can't stand those bloggers who feel all puffed-up and paid... I was one of them for a little while I quit after deciding that most of the dribbel was based only on the writers viewpoints and as an Actual Published Writer (in a different pen name) I find the whole Paid Blogger Gig to be worth the Paper it's Written on....
***ETA--oh, and the responsible way to Discuss a personal bloggers posts is to Leave them a Comment letting them know what you think and feel... Only takes a few keystrokes.