Boyfriend and space...?
My boyfriend has been telling me he needs space and won't tell me if we are together or not...he said to make things get better I need to be his friend but not only his friend...but i feel so sick inside because of not knowing if I am still with him or if things will work out for sure...i haven't been able to really eat...and its all i can think about...i know that everyone says to go out with your friends and give him space to miss you but its so hard because i am just so sad inside and all i want to do is be with him and hang out with him and have fun so things get back to normal...does anyone have any suggestions on what to do to feel better and how to make things get back to normal with my boyfriend..? thanks
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
To make things get better you gotta do what he said: give him some space. Just reading your post you sound like the clingy type who calls every minute to check up on what he's doing and to find out if you're still together, and want to spend 5 hours with him everyday.
*breathes* you have to give him some space, not only for him, but for you as well. It sound like you're not taking care of yourself and that's not his fault. You're still in a relationship, but the way it's going seems to me that if you don't give him his space he'll soon dump you.
Clinginess is not a good quality in a women. Men want to know that their girl is independent and in certain sense that she doesn't need him to be happy. By getting away and letting him miss you you'll gain some respect and he'll show you how much he need you. If you do so and he shows no sign of interest... ♪You've officially been chopped and screwed♫ - Sorry :S
Take care and good luck,
- ccpaintladyLv 41 decade ago
If a guy is telling you he needs space, he means it. He still wants to be your friend? Maybe he should act like a friend and give you the courtesy of defining the relationship and not leaving you feeling confused and sad! I would say you are NOT with him anymore, and that needs to be YOUR decision. Don't let guys leave you in limbo and don't let them use you as a convenient friend. You are worth too much for that BS. Get some confidence and tell him how it's going to be from your end!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
You guys aren't together anymore if he said he needs space.
He probably wants to mingle with other chicks. If he's young, you can't expect any better from him. Not many young guys want to be in a serious relationship. They mostly want to have fun and not be tied down.
Don't beat yourself up, hun. Go hang out with some girls and have fun. If he sees that your depressed, he'll probably think that you're the clingy type and have no independence and that's a big turn-off for most guys.
- 3 years ago
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- 1 decade ago
he might be stressed out about other things in his life
just let him know ur there if he needs someone to talk to
and give him the space or youll make him more stressed out
- Anonymous1 decade ago
hahaha ,your friend is very funny,,,,,always the boy always wants to feel that he is the boss and he is the great guy but inside he loves you alot,,,,,and if you want to check it your self,,,,,,,stop talking to him for nearly a week and he will not resist to be alone
- MichiganLv 51 decade ago
move on. he just wants to be able to makeout/ or f*ck you while being free. he is honestly and completely using you.
if you still like him, then move on and don't let him treat you this way.
act like you don't want him and he will want you more.