If Bipolar Borderline Personality Disorder people fear abandonment why do they use "splitting" & ignore friend?
Why do they use their illness as an excuse to manipulate and control others by using the Silent Treatment to Dump and Ignore the people who are closest to them (loved ones, significant others, boyfriends, girlfriends, dating partners)?
What I mean by this question is, why do people with borderline personality disorder ignore the person whom they have decided to "hate" and/or "paint black"?
Why do they ignore their loved one with whom they have had a one-time falling out with, when the loved one try's so hard to talk to the BPD person to get things solved?
It's always one-sided, where the "loved one" seems to be the only one constantly trying to repair the relationship.
I've done my research on the disorders, so no need to describe what BPD is like, and no need to use political psycho-babble regarding "codependency."
I just want to see if anyone, with or without this disorder, can answer my question on why they ignore the person.
Is the ignoring permanent? How many days must go by before it's considered "being dumped?"
Finally, please define "splitting"...
I wish there were a way to deal and react to the situation besides knowing "why" they do it.
Here is the link: http://www.suite101.com/discussion.cfm/depression/108673/1-2
He's taking 4 pills a day of the most powerful anti-psychotic available called SEROQUEL. The medication makes him numb and tired. He goes to therapy once a week, and a psychiatrist every 3 weeks for medicine monitoring.
I just feel he's making a conscious decision to disappear and dump the people closest to him. He's super promiscuous, a High school drop out who works at mcdonalds part time, and no drivers license.
The irony is they say they don't want to "hurt " us, but that's EXACTLY what the end up doing....HURTING us 10 TIMES MORE!!