It's ridiculous...just as I think the idea of traditional homemakers laying guilt trips or putting down career women is ridiculous, too.
A lot of that "feminists hate homemakers" propoganda actually started in the late 1970s from Phyllis Schalafly and others in the "Stop ERA" movement. Back then, that group was determined to keep the Equal Rights Amendment from passing..and they would stop at nothing to obtain their goals. They just loved to make outrageous claims about how "feminists were destroying America" and how the ERA would force women to go to into combat and we'd have unisex bathrooms ... and they'd go on and on about how allegedly feminists put down SAHMS and of course when all this stuff got out in the media, some women got very insulted...and ever since then the media in general and women's magazines in particular will drag out that dead horse and beat it over and over again. Why do they do that? Because it WORKS...nothing like a little drama and pseudo-controversy to boost ratings and sell magazines
It shocks me to see that even after 30 years, this whole "mommy wars" crap in the media is still going on...the funny thing here is 20 years down the road, most people look back and ask themselves "why did that matter so much? was it really worth arguing and defending?"
Besides, MEN never have to justify their life choices...why should women? People who do stuff like that are really just insecure about their own positions or they feel the need to validate their choices with others...and there are insecure, emotionally immature people in both the feminists and traditionalist camps. One is as as bad as the other.
In reality, no one, feminist or otherwise, should be making important and highly personal life decisions based on whatever the "trend" is reported in some magazine or due to some sort of peer pressure from friends or aquaintences.
There are feminists who are also full-time homemakers. There are plenty of "traditional" conservative women who hold down full time careers and even choose not to marry and have children.
A TRUE feminist (not just some egghead hiding in academia or a talking head claiming to be a feminist) believes that each woman has the right to determine her life's path for herself, and if she wants to be a full time homemaker, fine. If she wants a career rather than being a wife and mother, that's fine, too... and if she, like most people do in reality, wants to combine the two, well, that's great as well...and even if she wants to say forget the husband and just be a single mom, that's her choice...no one elses!
A TRUE "traditionalist" (and not just some loudmouthed radio pundit or a politician spouting "family values" to garner votes) knows that some women (and men) cannot and indeed SHOULD NOT marry! If the sanctity of marriage and upholding of family values is to be kept, then marriage and childrearing and parenting shouldn't be foisted on those who do not have the desire or the aptitiude to do it well. There's nothing worse than a unwilling or embittered or allegedly 'trapped' SAHM who blames husbands or children for her own inertia.
Besides, we all go through different stages in lives...and at different ages. I'm in my late 40s, and there are women I know who, like me, were SAHMs in their youth but picked up their careers later and are now grandparents. Yet, there are also those in my age range who put aside marriage and having children until later in life. Some of those women are now mothers of young children. We don't judge each other for our choices....there's no need to do that.