Dealing with anger over circumcision?

Question

I've done a lot of research on male circumcision, and I found the entire practice barbaric and disgusting and would like to know how others have learned to deal with their feelings of anger, and resentment.

Answer 1

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I have learned to deal with it by talking it out with my parents and letting them know that I was not happy about this and I want to be the way I was born. They know that I feel this is a human rights issue and I believe they violated with my human rights.

It has also helped by talking to other boys/men who feel the same way I do. People can be really mean on this subject and they tell you, you have serious issues and need to get over this because being circumcised is better and you should just deal with it. But really they don't get it, or they are burrying their feelings.

The thing that has helped me the absolute most with my anger, and fustration is foreskin restoration.

You might want to look into it if it's something you might be intersested it.

It's not surgical, a lot of people think it's surgery and it's not. It's where you use devces or yor hands to put pressure on your shaft skin for long periods of time. This tension and "tugging" encourages now skin to grow and you can grow more shaft skin to cover your head.

It's 100% safe and it looks 110% real.

It also makes sex a lot more enjoyable. Circumcision causes the head to rub against clothing and that makes the head less and less sensitive as time goes on.

Just sit down with your parents and talk it out. You might want to find some guys who feel the same way, it always feels better to talk to someone. You can email me off my profile if you want. I'm always up to talk to guys.

-Connor

Answer 2

This is a tremendous can of worms you have opened with this question.

I have been angry my entire life over being circumcised against my will, and I know there are a lot of others who feel the same.

I found out about foreskin restoration two years ago and started immediately. From the moment I started, I felt relief. I felt like I had taken a hopeless situation and turned it around. It was a feeling of empowerment that affected my daily life and made me a happier person. My wife noticed and commented on it. I told her it was because I was restoring and I felt like I was going to be whole again.,

Mine was not done as a baby, but in my early youth by a particularly brutal and uncaring doctor who refused to use pain reduction. It was the way it was done at that time. This was a violation of my rights as it was unnecessary, but perhaps the doctor wanted money for a new car payment.

When contributors say they were cut as a baby and it is better because you do not remember the pain, that is just not true. The pain is embedded in your memory, just buried deep. Well funded and professional research has found that boys who were circumcised as infants react much more fearfully to the pain of vaccinations and other related medical procedures than uncircumcised boys.

Female Genital Mutilation is vilified across the globe, yet Male Genital Mutilation is condoned socially because it is hidden behind a softer sounding medical name like circumcision. It is the same thing. You are removing the sensitive skin that keeps the glans moist, healthy and protected,....not to mention sensitive.

If circumcision is so great, why has nature not picked up on it? The foreskin has a purpose and a reason.

Parents have no more right to subject their child to circumcision that they have the right to have him tattooed. The whole disease prevention thing is a hoax. The inner mucosa produces anti microbial, disease fighting secretions that actually prevent many of the diseases circumcision is thought to prevent.

I see several respondents have mentioned the www.norm.org site. This is an excellent information site to educate yourself about the reason and function of the foreskin, and provides ample literature on why it should be left alone.

We all have a right to be angry over a bad decision made for us, for no medical reason. With the information on the internet now, there is no reason for a parent to feel pressured by a doctor. Circumcision is a heinous act and should be relegated to the law courts for the mutilation it is.

As an after-insert, I should also note that I am involved through other sites with helping new restorers learn about foreskin restoration, and giving them the support they need.

One thing that is over-riding all this, is the amount of anger these new restorers express. When they find someone that they know understands their feelings, the anger pours as outrage over the unfairness and the violation of their rights as a child. I always let them get this out, and often it takes several nights of "venting" before their anger starts to subside. Some never completely let go of their anger.

Many of the new restorers have confronted their parents over this issue. Some parents have been supportive and told their sons they regreted letting the doctor push them into this procedure. Other parents tell their sons to just 'suck it up and live with it' This later response builds an insurmountable barrier between the son and parents, and often this barrier leads to further breakdown of the relationship. Being a father of four sons, I would be devastated to know that my sons were saying some of those things about me. This anger issue and how it affects family relations is just another one of the hidden complications caused by routine infant circumcision. The severity of the matter screams out that it should be the child's well informed choice, to be made only by them, without duress, when they reach adulthood.

Answer 3

If you wouldn't circumcise your daughter, then don't do your son. If you wouldn't remove a newborn's tonsils (he may need them removed later and it's painful as an adult), then don't remove healthy tissue from your son's penis. If your husband is dead-set on his new baby looking like him, ask him if he'd also consider pubic hair grafts for the child. If all these seem ridiculous to you, ask yourself why it's not ridiculous to circumcise your son. Research has shown that in countries that don't routinely circumcise, the need to have it done as an adult is 1 in 17,000. Also consider how much more painful it is as a baby - they aren't able to properly anesthetize a baby due to their size and the healing process must occur while sitting in dirty diapers. Also research the benefits of having foreskin. It is there for a reason. It requires no special cleaning when they are younger (clean only what is seen, don't retract) and is easier to teach to clean when they are older than girls.

Answer 4

Dude, I feel your pain. I resent being circumcised myself (or at least not having the opportunity to decide that for myself) but at this point there is really nothing much to do about it. You can try foreskin restoration perhaps. I've heard about a lot of guys doing that and apparently it works (but after a really long time). Basically I just try to speak out against forced circumcision on babies so that other boys don't have to grow up with these kinds of feelings. I've actually met quite a few guys in the same boat as us and that tells me that we shouldn't be doing this to innocent babies for no medical reason.

Answer 5

The main thing I want to ask those who are angry; is this what you want to spend time being bitter about? Its a serious question and if this issue is taking an ever larger role in your life, maybe you need to talk to someone about anger and perspective. I was born intersexed and have plenty to be angry about, but I'm not. I'm just glad to be alive.

To answer your question, I began foreskin restoration when I decided I was missing something, and I don't look back. I am at peace with what was done, and rather than sit and be angry at what was taken from me, I found it therapeutic to restore.

Answer 6

well i still have my own opinion on this issue, like i think circumcision is a choice for the new born baby that it has to wait until the baby is old enough to make the decision, rather than the parents making the decision for the baby. well, this is just not right to me.

also, if it is because religious practice, well honestly i don't really know why should people still need to keep this practice. like jewish people need to have the new born baby circumcised in 8 weeks after the baby was given born... i mean, c'mon, this is a practice that comes from the bible, and bible is only a book that was written by many scholars at ancient time. they said it is god's word but hello, no offense, where is god? i can't even hear a single word from him... so circumcision is yeah, as you said, barbaric.

the only condition of having circumcision is when a man's penis is have trouble when it's erect, and also when it's because of hygiene problem, then he should have circumcision, other than these reasons, i really don't see the point of having done such thing.

Answer 7

Sorry you were circumcised. It must be a horrible feeling. I assume you've been to some web sites about this? You could try http://www.norm.org/

I'm not sure if there are any forums around but there are some guys here who have the same feelings as you who might be willing to chat about it. I know some guys get therapy.

Harriet

Answer 8

Well one just have to accept the situation. It's not like we can go back and retrieve the foreskin that was cut off and put it back. Some foreskin restoration procedures work but not the original way it was.

I do vacuum pumping and well over the years that extra skin because of the growth of the penis has caused a faux foreskin when flaccid.

/jerome

Answer 9

I'm in pretty much the same boat.

I questioned my dad over it recently to see what his opinion was when it was done but he didn't remember anything besides the fact that the doctor had suggested it and that it was done... It was kind of shocking to learn that my dad was pretty indifferent to what his own son went through, etc.

Anyways, my way of, well getting round it more than over it, is through restoration. Sure it won't be 100% as functional but it'll serve some of the main purposes which is better than staying as I am. You should look into it.

Feel free to email me. :)

Answer 10

try this

www.norm.org

i know how you feel... sadly people don't realize what they lost... "it works fine" uhm your head becomes desensitized over time... the head is meant to be sensitive, cutting the skin that's mean to do that (btw, that cuts LOTS of nerve endings and veins too) the head of the penis becomes drastically less sensitive and it doesn't get better over time... there IS a way to fix it as odd as that sounds... this this

www.tlctugger.com

Do research on foreskin restoration... as i said, as odd as that sounds... it really does work.

if you have any questions don't hesitate to contact me :)

and i read your other question and restoration surgery is not the way to go... expensive and painful...

k BYE!!

Source(s): own experience