Do I give up on getting with a girl too easily?..and how am I supposed to deal with competition?
Here is a list of scenarios. BTW, these are not real girls names but the situations really happened to me. Please tell me where I am going wrong from these scenarios.
#1) Lets say me and a girl named Cindy' are hitting it off. I'm diggin her and she's diggin me. It's all good...Then I see 'Cindy' at a party dancin all nastylike with 'Joe'. Here, I would give up.
#2) In this scenario, me and 'Ashley' are talkin to eachother...Everything is all good and then one day in play, I say "Yo...We should go out!" Then, not in play at all, she in a serious tone says NO. Here, I would give up.
#3) Here, I'm moving in on 'Gina.' Everything is going fine until 'Bob the musclebound ladiesman' shows up. Bob is known for being a charmer with the ladies. Now, although she was feeling me, I see the way she looks at 'Bob' and I can tell that she thinks he is sexy. Here, I would give up.
#4) Me and 'Lucy' are feelin eachother's vibe and its all goin good. She really likes me as I really like her. One day I'm sitting at the lunch table talking to my guy friends(who are all on the football team/so they have better bodies than mine and get more girls.). As they talk, they all were saying how they are plotting to get a piece of 'Lucy'. Here, I would give up.
#5) Another party scenario....I am at a party with 'Erica.' We dance a little bit and I go out to the bathroom. I come back and ask 'Erica' to dance. She says no. I am fine with it because I figured she's tired of dancing or wutever. Not two whole seconds later, I see 'Erica' dancing with 'Bob the musclebound ladisman'. Here, I would give up
PLEASE TELL ME WHERE I'M AM GOING WRONG OR IF I AM AT ALL. IT WOULD BE NICE IF YOU COULD REFERENCE THE SCENARIOS. I REALLY NEED HELP ON THIS ALOT!!!!!! I'VE NEVER HAD A GF AND IDK IF THIS IS WHY OR NOT. I REALLY DON'T KNOW.
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Alright i'm gonna go over the five different scenarios but before that I must say u r giving up 2 easily and have a little more confidence (espicially when Bob the musclebound ladiesman is ur competition lol) Also I am going based off these being ur classmates and u know there personallities.
#1) Cindy may be outgoing like that and at parties like that it doesn't nessisarily make her a slut or somethin like that. After Joe and Cindy got done dancin u should go get ur "freak" on haha. But on a serious note it doesnt mean she liked joe it just means he probably asked 2 dance with her.
#2)Wow this is a hard one. Did she know u were kidding if not thats a bit wierd to randomly approach a girl like that which would make her serious. She also may not have been in a good move.
#3) If you check out a girl that is appealing to ur eyes does it make u fall 4 them? No. So in this case u have to out charm Bob by having a sense of humor and a better personaity. just because Bob the bodybuilding ladiesman has a better body than u doesn't mean he has the girl although being a bodybuilding ladiesman is an advantage.
#4) Just bbecause all of ur friends find Lucy attractive also doesn't mean u should stop liking her. Just be the 1st to claim Lucy & they will fool around with u about how they used to talk about her but she is urs and thats all that matters.
#5) Finally the last one. Simply put I would have given up on Erica to since it's pretty shady/rude 2 say noy to u and dance with a guy 2 secs later.
Overall just stop caring about other peoples motives and get a girl u like. U seem like ur being too passive. There r times 2 back off from ur friends girl (if they really like her) but if its only a lust thing from ur friends be the more aggressive person. If u have any more questions or scenarios u can ask me espicially if something doesn't seem clear or if there is anything I was misinformed on. Good Luck and stay Confident!
- jewsonLv 43 years ago
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