Advice on letting the father of my baby in the delivery room--(sorry it's so long)?
Ever since the breakup, I've received several threatening texts and e-mails from both my ex and his sister, telling me that he's going to get full custody, he's going to make the baby have his last name, and he's going to have all the rights. I know he can't do this, but it really got to me, and caused me unnecessary stress to the point where I was actually throwing up from crying so much. He talked to his attorney and now that he found out that I have all the power, he's been sucking up to me, but again, harassing me. I've logged all the times he's called when I've told him to stop, he just doesn't get it.
Basically, I wanted to get some opinions on whether or not I should let my ex be in the delivery room with me. I just can't seem to get over all the stress he has caused me. My take on it is if he couldn't man up then, he sure as hell can't do it now. Why should he be there watching me go through all the pain, knowing that he will just cause me stress? I don't want him touching me, I don't want him near me. The thought of it makes me cringe. He didn't even help me look for insurance and because of him not helping me or supporting me, I had to apply for Medicaid and WIC and just lost the best OB/GYN because she doesn't accept Medicaid. I'm just really bitter, but I am trying not to be selfish. I have done everything else alone (dr's appts, paying out of pocket for appts, applying for medicaid, etc) why not at the delivery as well?
Sorry so long! Just pissed!
Ima Vegan--I'm definitely keeping this baby though. I don't believe in abortion at all.
I've tried so hard to work it out, but all of this is so hard mentally, physically, financially. Thanks for your answers!
I'm really thinking about the magazine and change thing though haha :]