these days arrange marriage can be so different o how it was before. nowadays its like 2 family meets. boy meets girl, they have a date, get to know each other, and if they dont like each other they look for different person. bit like speed dating exept with the family meeting too.
but then again alot of muslim teenagers have secret boyfreind or girlfreind.
well i do know alot of people whom had arranged marriages, and some forced marriages.
i know few people married just to see their parenst happy - thats ridiculous.
my marriage was arranged since i was 11 years old. when i found out this i was only 13yrs old. it didnt hit me that hard at first because i still felt like a baby so i said to myself i have long time, and things iwll change in time.
however when i turned 18 it really did hit me hard. thats when i secretly had a boyfreind, and my parents kept going on about the guy i was supposed to be getting married.
i told them i wont be getting married abroad - because i know the guy would only want to marry me just to come into U.K, and then leave me. i was so sure this was going to happen as i seen it happen to many other girls.
but my parents totally ignored me. they were saying things like" oh if you marry an outsider (whom isnt related) they will beat you up leave you etc" "and if you marry your cousin - and if they hit you etc it wouldnt hurt you emotionally as much" WTF i was sickened hearing this from my parents who rather see me get beaten up my my cousin.
anyway when they found out i had a boyfreind parents flipped. beat me up, i couldnt go to work, wasnt allowed to eat, wasnt allowed to go out. and more.
after going through this for over a month, i left home one early morning. from this day my family disowned me and never wanted to know me again.
forced marriage and arrange dmarriage isnt a religion thing as people thinks. its a culture thing and always have been going on. and people like my parents think this culture should be going on still even when they lived in UK for over 25 years.
i worry for my little sister. she said they guy who i was supposed to be marrying abroad - he is now wanting to marry her, and she is so sickened by it. i worry for her because i odnt her to go through what i did, and she doesnt have the courage to leave like i did
my sister had an arrange dmarriage however she is now divorced. just didnt work out.
my parents had an arranged marriage however they still together after 45 years.
its 50/50 thing. but i rather not go through it