I just don't get how SOME in this forum continue to negate the feelings that other's voice they have.
If I walk up to someone on the street, the sun is shining, I am having a great and wonderful day, my stocks are up, my family loves me....blah blah blah...and the person I see is sad, mopey, crying and anxious and I ask them whats the matter......and they tell me they "feel like they are in the dark", their "family hates them", they "lost their job and a chiunk on Wall Street............DO I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY BULLSH*T...they must be joking and their feelings are that of a brainwashed person. After all, my life is wonderful....so theirs must be too??
That is what is going on here that totally baffles me. That screams of someone who must be in control at all costs and refuses to listen to others. I am all about healthy debate. I think it must happen for the flow to balance itself. It shows there is life in a given group of people. I do not beleive anyone has the right to negate the feelings of another.
I am not adotped. I have a sister who surrendered her child for adoption in the 70s, an aunt who "went away" in the 50s and came back with a flat stomach and no baby, I work with children who are in foster care and are legally free for adoption...............and no matter how happy and joyous their adoption may have been, in twenty years I would never feel the "right" to tell them they are full of crap, they had a wonderful set of parents- after all....I know becasue I chose them first hand....they had a great house, a nice car to drive and all the money in the world...so their life must have been happy....WHY ARE THEY UPSET NOW??
CW/Adoption Worker in public agency who is baffled at the audacity of some......