Dude....it just hurts....it always will, even when you are 98 years old! If you loved her, you are going to feel pretty crappy about it and this may last a while! So be prepared! I read recently that men actually are worse at handling breakups and take longer to get over them. I know this has been the case with me! The first one sucked, the most recent one sucked and all in between sucked too! I hope I never have another one to be quite honest! It hurts no matter what, even if she was a pain in the @$$ and hurt you!
Maybe when I was younger I didn't admit how bad it hurt. The first three were especially bad for me. After a dozen or so it gets easier but that doesn't mean it's easy! My last one was especially bad but I have once again moved on.
I suggest (useful for both genders actually) the following Standard Post-Breakup Procedure:
1) Get rid of her crap and any crap that reminds you of her! Mail it back to her, sell it, burn it, bury it or throw it into a large body of water.
2) Do stuff she hated. If she hated camping, go camping. If she hated loud music, blare the tunes! If she hated a messy house, be a slob and leave the toilet seat up all day! If she hated drinking beer and watching football...well you get the idea....
3) Find some cool guy friends to hang out with, drink, play video games or do whatever you enjoyed doing before she came into your life. You had a life before her, so take it back! Do what you enjoy doing most. It always helps to explore new interests too.
4) Meet other girls. You don't necessarily have to sleep with them (but don't turn down a good thing either, of course!) but just find women to hang out with. Look at attractive women too. Don't be obnoxious or anything but ENJOY being single! There are lots of great things about being single. Sure having a GF is great but it's great too, to not have the responsibility of a relationship. So have fun with it but always be safe. Look at the bright side....You can go dancing at a club with drunk hoottchies grinding all over you all night and not have to explain why you smell like cheap purfume in the morning! HAHAHA! Is it really so bad being a single guy? There are MILLIONS of hot, single chicks in the world!
5) Hit the gym! This will help you blow off some steam and channel your anger. You probably have a lot of both! If you aren't into lifting, try a sport of some kind or martial arts. Also, you will probably look better too which may help with step #4 listed above. Bonus!
6) Look at the bright side of things. You will probably save money without a GF. You will have more time to get things done. You have freedom. Make a "To do" list of everything in your life you have neglected and start doing it. Stay busy. Put in more hours at work if you can. Fix your house. Write a book. Paint, draw, fish or do whatever it is you have been wanting or needing to do. Having no GF means you have TIME! No late night phone calls. No drama, fights or BS. You might feel lonely for a while but your life will be much less complicated without a GF, TRUST ME! I love women, don't get me wrong but being single for a while has it's good points too.
7) Tell someone. Find a close friend you trust and tell the ONE person how you feel. Don't hold back. Just say whatever it is you feel about the situation. Then avoid talking about her! Don't dwell inthe past and repeat the same old stories about her to everyone you know. If someone asks about her, make it clear you don't want to discuss it or her. Don't speak bad of her either, in fact, say as little as possible and simply say "I wish her well." and say you have no hard feelings. Be the better person, even if she trashes you to other people.
8) Avoid doing things that remind you of her, at least for a while. If there are things that bring back memories of her, try to change the memory....Example: If you two had 'your song' get a lap dance to it from a stripper! If you took her to some park, take another date there. This way you will have a new memory of that song, place or thing and the one of her will become a faded one.
9) Don't blame yourself entirely. It takes two to make a relationship work. If you gave it your best effort and it didn't work out, SHE is as much to blame as you! Even if you made mistakes and she hates you for it, she was responsible for her own actions too, if she admits it or not. Most of the time, both parties are equally at fault. Other times too, it's not anyone's 'fault' and just wasn't meant to be.
10) Forgive. This is the hardest thing to do sometimes. Admit you were wrong, if not to her then just admit it to yourself. She made some mistakes and you probably did too. If you still care about her, hope for the best for her. You'd probably want her to feel the same for you. Even if you still hate her and want her to fall out a window, understand that we learn something from every person we come in contact with. Learning isn't always easy. It can be painful but usually we end up stronger and wiser for it!
ME! Been through a lot of breakups.....I think about 14 of them, I lost count! Of of all of those there was only ONE I didn't feel bad about and that was such a horribly bad (psychob%^h from hell) situation that I was glad to be rid of it and her....the others hurt like hell, I won't lie. This is why I share my Standard Post-Breakup Procedure with you! Best of luck, I hope this helps!