What do you think about sex before marriage?

It seems like most people, notably young adults, do it before jumping into a long term relationship.

Personally, I wouldn't do it primarily due to religious reasons. I know most women don't like male virgins. They like men who are "experienced".

What do you think about sex before marriage? If you married a virgin, would you help your spouse through sex? If unmarried, would you pressure your significant other to have sex. If they decline, would you end the relationship over something petty like that?

PS: Personally, I think if people end the relationship because on refuses sex before marriage is petty, next to one who wants kids and one who doesn't.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Hmmm... sex can be pretty important in a relationship. It can reinforce your bond, make each person feel loved and desired. And the lack of it can also cause problems. For example, if a guy makes a habit of using porn on the sly and gratifying himself instead of being with his real woman, expect that woman to feel inadequate, sad, and unwanted and your relationship to suffer.

    Also, it's a good idea to be sure that you're compatible in most regards before tying the knot and yes, that includes sex. I don't think that it should be regarded as "petty" as you say, but as just one aspect of an intimate relationship. If one person likes it and the other does not, expect problems. If one person wants it far more than the other, expect problems. If one or both people are inhibited and feel sex is dirty then expect problems.

    WIth that said, if I married a virgin, of course I'd help him through sex and I wouldn't think any less of him for choosing to wait, but that's just me. As for whether I'd end a relationship over a guy's refusal to have sex- probably not. I would if I suspected he had a negative view of sex or sex hang ups or thought it was "dirty." That would point to psych problems that I'm just not up to dealing with. If however it was part of his spirituality to abstain, then of course I would respect that and not pressure him.

    I think one should take a middle road and make sex neither too important nor unimportant. It is important, but certainly not the only consideration.

  • J Ann
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Well, if you haven't been with anyone else you wouldn't know what you could or could not be missing. That being said my first boyfriend I had sex with was terrible at it and I only realized it after I was with my second boyfriend.

    Experience doesn't really matter, most stuff can be taught.

    It's too late for me know, but I would get married to someone that I never had sex with if that's how he chose it to be.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    For all users who say that to have sex before marriage is a sin...where in the bible does it say it is a sin. I already know you will come with scripture about fornication. "Christians", let's know how "fornication" is used in context within the scriptures and even look it up in a bible-based dictionary. Fornication refers to sex with multiple partners and sex purely out of lust. You CAN truly love a person and have sex with that person before marriage and it not be a sin. Because of the difficulty of separating love and lust, and also the likelihood of sex leading to promiscuity, it is typically advised not to engage in premarital sex. I have turned the scriptures upside down looking for where it was said to be a sin. It is too easy for Christians to pass down traditional "man-based" beliefs rather than KNOW what the bible is saying. May we as Christians grow in knowledge and wisdom daily so that we can be better witnesses.

    God Bless!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    my first wife and i were virgins. we gave our virginity to one another, and when it washed out, sex was everything i dreamed it would be and she hated it. in the end our sexual differences tore us apart. the problem with not having sex before you make that huge commitment is that you have no clue what its going to be like. i feel like at least if you have sex before and find out you are just completely different that you can stop from making a huge mistake.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I don't think people should be sleeping around, but if you are together for a long time and you see marriage in the future and sex happens it isn't the end of the world. I believe in monogamy!

  • 1 decade ago

    I respect people who wait, but honesty I feel not every person is sexally compatible with everyone else. There are physical differences as well as sexual preferences, and different frequency needs as well.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Sex is not petty. It's a form of emotional bonding. I think sex before marriage is fine, but it's not for everyone and if you choose to wait you should not let others pressure you or make you feel bad about your decision.

  • 1 decade ago

    Sex before marriage is like test driving a car need to know if the make and model fits your needs. Ok really my wife and I had sex before we were married we lived together before we were married and it was a breaking in period. Getting use to each other I understand the religious aspects but I couldn't hold back any more dating while dating my wife. PS I was not a virgin when i met my wife.

    Source(s): LIFE
  • 1 decade ago

    Can anyone give me the address of the courthouse Adam and Eve got their marriage license? Which jewelry store did he buy her wedding ring at? Did they perform a jewish, catholic or muslim ceremony?

    Today's marriage is a ceremony that man came up with not God.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    for every man who will say oh i wouldn't wait. why wait? need to know what your getting into.what would you tell your Daughter when it come time to have that talk? I say wait until your married. I wish I had

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