Okay, you clearly have discipline issues, but at the same time you also have self-awareness.
"I don't eat veggies (I know I should, I just grew up not liking them and still don't)."
Eat veggies. The fact that you didn't like them in the past is completely irrelevant, when we consider the prospect of your not being there for your fiance and daughter.
"I used to drink ALOT of soda (like a 12pack a day) but now have cut back to maybe 2-3cans every few days and usually only on the weekends when I work overnight (caffeine). "
Stop drinking Soda.
"I try (and usually always do) walk every night, but its not a jog or to brisk of a walk because I have a bad leg due to a metal rod in it from being hit by a car."
This is good.
"I don't drink alchoal or smoke tobacco. "
This is good.
"I used to smoke pot, but havent for like 2-3 months, as Im trying to find another job. Ironicly I seemed to have better levels when I was smoking. but that may just because I wasnt stressed as much, I dunno."
It's good that you aren't doing pot right now. I don't like your mentality on this. Do not do pot even if you find a job. You are poor. You do not have enough money to waste on pot. It may sound draconian, but every time you say no to smoking pot you are saying you love your daughter enough to reallocate money for more family-friendly needs.
There are so-called "benefits" to drugs. Otherwise people would not take them. One benefit of smoking tobacco is the reduction of appetite and the subsequent loss of weight. However, there are serious consequences to smoking, and it appears that the medical community thinks that smoking is in general bad. I believe it is the same for pot, unless there is some sort of medical reason you're doing it. By medical reason, I'm not talking about YOUR medical opinion. I'm talking about a licensed doctor who knows what he/she's talking about when it comes to drugs. So do not think this is an excuse for you to spend money on pot.
"but my main question is how can I control my levels better without help from the doctors, and preferably without to much vegtiable eating (I am working on this, i promise..but its a hard habit to kick)"
Go find vegetarian cookbook. It is very difficult to deal with this without some sort of medical attention.
"and also...why is my levels always floating around 200 even with little to no sugar intake? is it from...bread? or maybe the pasta? (macaroni) Im sorry if this post is unorganized or chatoic, but i tend to ramble."
I think bread and pasta are sources of "simple sugars". Go look up this stuff on the Internet to see what carbohydrate sources are okay for you.
Good luck. Just remember, you're doing it for your fiancee and daughter.